Conversational Postulate in Hypnosis

At this months NLP & Hypnosis Practice Group, The Trance Cafe the topic of exploration was the Milton Model. Specifically the use and understanding of the Conversational Postulate.

First we inquired into the meanings of the terms. Postulate means a assumption of some reality. But a Conversational Postulate is basically a question form where irrespective of the verbal answer will tend to invoke some kind of action in reality; be this a physical one and/or operating withing cognitive capacity.

Conversational Postulate Hypnosis Newcastle

The verbal answer is most commonly a YES/NO or less commonly I DON’T KNOW or MAYBE. The importance is what happens in actuality, an action or thought that is the subtle or indirect response that is usually inferred by the recipient of the Conversational Postulate question.

For instance:

  • Could you tell me the way to the station?
  • Won’t you sit down?
  • Might it be a good idea to talk about it?
  • Can I ask you to stand up please?
  • Will you show me that again?
  • Is there any more toilet paper?
  • Should you wait before ordering that book?

The basic form will take a MODAL OPERATOR such as Could, Can, Will, Might followed by a personal or group referential index such as YOU or YOUSE’ALL and then a request ( question ) which can be acted upon either physically or psychologically.

So a basic set up for an induction into trance could be:

Could you sit down please? … And can you take two or three deep breaths? … And might you relax your shoulders a little more? … And will you close your eyes momentarily or in just a little while?

So we now have the structure of :

[ C.P. ] [ Suggestion ]

eg [ Could you ] [ Sit Down ]

Following on from this we can use what I call a Conversational Softener or just a Softener that is spoken before the Conversation Postulate [ C.P. ]. For instance:

I wonder … Could you Sit Down? or OK Robert, Could you Sit Down?

Where a Softener is of the form : I wonder, OK Robert,  I’m wondering, Now etc.

If you are ready … Could you sit down please? … And Robert … can you take two or three deep breaths? … And now … might you relax your shoulders a little more? … And I’m wondering will you close your eyes momentarily or in just a little while?

[ Softener ] [ C.P. ] [ Suggestion ]

One of the most useful ( and indeed a social nicety ) words is please. There is one video I saw online of Erickson working with a client who would not at first close their eyes. Erickson used the work ‘please’ several times to affect this. Usually clients are not resistful or not wanting to co-operate so the use of ‘please’ has several uses.

The word ‘please’ in this developing structure can be used in a variety of places. It was found during the practice group that excessive use of ‘please’ felt somewhat unnatural. I leave you to explore this in your own ways. ‘Please’ will fit in any one ( or more ) of the structure sequence marker shown after the ‘Please’ modified ‘induction’ below.

If you are ready … Please could you sit down ? … And Robert … can you Please take two or three deep breaths? … And now … might you relax your shoulders a little more Please? … And I’m wondering will you Please close your eyes momentarily or in just a little while?

[ Softener ] [ -Please- ] [ C.P. ] [ -Please- ] [ Suggestion ] [ -Please- ]

You may have noticed that the last structure phrase in this basic induction is a double bind. The Conversation Postulate may be actualised immediately, or momentarily or in a little while as per the verbal question. So extending the ‘Suggestion’ part of the mini-structure, yes that can be a double ( or single bind ) bind.

[ Softener ] [ C.P. ] [ Please ] [ Suggestion ( Bind Form) ]

Now, as with all structures ( or process ) I wonder, can you thoroughly learn this with plenty of effortful practice or enhanced repetition and then please consciously forget them?

Negation and Negative Effect Postulates

I will leave this post with a little taster of what followed on from this exploration at the practice group; as in putting into a alternative mode of practice within the presented structure.

Assuming your practice partner is sitting down and their name is Mary.

Ok Mary … I see that you are not standing up … Please … I don’t know … can’t you stand up? … and go deeper into trance?

Or assuming Mary has her eyes open.

Mary … I notice your eyes are open … I don’t know … can you not close your eyes? … while you develop more of an altered state?

NLP & Hypnotherapy Practice Weekend : Newcastle : April 2017

Just another super high value weekend to meet old and new friends and playfully practice some hypnotherapy and NLP.

Being a practice weekend, some topics will be decided on the day by what you want to practice and what you want to explore; either for a first time or something that you would like to deepen your experiential knowledge of.

NLP Hypnotherapy Practice Newcastle

A couple of things I would like to explore are:

Your inner tune, your inner rhythm. Many years ago I heard a tune that not just spoke to me but was a metaphor for my ‘natural’ beat, my natural resonance in my normal day to day being is. It really did take me years to remember this.

When I tuned this in me, it was mostly unconscious and not currently being able to write music and cadence, I only noticed it when it was. I noticed it but had no way to me consciously to replicate it. So something I would like to explore with you is your ‘natural’ tune.

Once you have this it takes very little to slow that tune down or speed it up and by way of conscious choice change your state dramatically. It’s powerful.

The other exploration is being able and having the capacity to take different perspectives other than your own.

This is particularly important to me in friendships and relationships. The handful of people I can honestly call really close friends have this capacity. So in nurturing relationships this is something I think we as a species need and know I need to better be able to relate to others.

The path to competency, even mastery requires dedicated and persistent practice to become a habit or an unconscious skill.  The other two crucial elements are purposeful fun. So anticipate some fun and childishness in our learning together.

VENUE & DATES

Jesmond Dene Conference Center, Jesmond Dene,
Newcastle upon Tyne, NE7 7BQ

April 22-23 : 9.30 am start, finishing between 5-5.30 pm

BOOKING

Excellent value ONLY £30 for the full weekend.
Book your place quick. Limited places.





Want to Attend Clinical Hypnotherapy Training in Newcastle 2017?

It was well over ten years ago when I did my first hypnotherapy training. I was very lucky as I did training with my teacher who became a real friend – Alan Jones. Someone who was experienced in hypnotherapy and for me could teach it technically and emotionally with lots of demonstrations. I was taught very well.

It’s just about impossible to know you are making a very good decision at the time of making it. Yes of course I had both a good idea and good feeling about joining the hypnotherapy training – but most of all, at that time, I was deeply interested and committed to the idea of learning hypnotherapy.

Hypnotherapy Training Newcastle

When I joined the hypnotherapy training I had no intentions of making this my business or way of life – I didn’t realise that I would be able to help people with the psychological, behavioral and sometimes physical issues that we all face. Me, I just wanted to learn it!

In just over a year from having completed the training, gained a wealth of experience working with clients I was invited to co-train with Alan. Perhaps a stroke of luck or perhaps the meeting of opportunity and lots of commitment.

The foundations of the hypnotherapy I learned and now teach are bases in NLP or Neuro Linguistic Programming as this provides the core skills to work well with people in solution orientated ways.

Following on from an NLP training, clinical hypnotherapy provides a rich and powerful set of approaches for working professionally with real people. And as all people are not the same, have different requirements and different beliefs we need a variety of robust and flexible approaches to assisting clients.

Good hypnotherapy is absolutely not about reading scripts to your clients in your best hypnotic voice. A client may as well by a hypnosis CD. Although such contraptions can work they are invariably not specific to your client. And clients who are genuinely invested in making changes in their life will seek professional assistance.

The Clinical Hypnotherapy training in Newcastle will over five months cover all of the aspects that you will need to work effectively with your clients. This of course involved you practicing outside of the course to fully develop your skills.

The training is very practical in nature so you will learn through cycles of demonstration, doing and reflection. It’s actually very easy to learn when you commit to effortful practice.

The prerequsite for the Clinical Hypnotherapy training which begins August 2017 is attending an NLP practitioner training ( which will include many elements of hypnotherapy ) beginning this January on 28th.

Click here for information and booking on NLP Training in August. And additionally click here for information for the August Hypnotherapy Training in Newcastle.

 

 

NLP Training in Newcastle : Begins January 2017

Taking an NLP Practitioner training is an easy way to help you enhance and transform in our shared journey of life. Life is always going to be full of challenges and these are mostly psychological.

I got the taste for NLP many years ago and like a healthy diet with enjoyable exercise, NLP helps keep my mental wellbeing healthy because learning how to and being able to alter and change my internal furniture is a essential life skill.

NLP is a great utility for people both in the helping professions and people who desire additional soft skills in excellent communication and enhancing relationships.

Here are some recent attendee thoughts about their NLP Practitioner training. Click on each testimonial to easily read it.

NLP Practitioner Newcastle

Georgia Testimonial

I wrote a little about my initial experience and expectations of NLP last year. If you are interested you can read this here.

If you are expecting class room style training with power point slides you will be disappointed!  You could get that from a book.

With this training the emphasis is experiential learning so your NLP understandings come from your experience. What you understand you know!

Newcastle NLP Practitioner Training

Andy Testimonial

We all have patterns of behaviour. Most of the time our intrinsic patterns work very well in our daily lives. NLP has the benefit of showing us many of our own unconscious patterns of thought and behaviour. Imagine the value of learning new patterns of behaviour and thoughts that offer us more flexibility and choice.

Newcastle NLP Training

Lou Testimonial

So, when you are ready for a transformational journey that really will bring more balance and control into your life, when you choose to make a commitment to yourself for now and the future. Is this your time to engage in an NLP Practitioner training beginning January 2017?

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Jitka Testimonial

Training Venue and Dates for 2017

Jesmond Dene Conference Center, Jesmond Dene,
Newcastle upon Tyne, NE7 7BQ

Jan 28-29, Feb 25-26, March 25-26, April 29-30, May 27-28, June 24-25

BOOKING

The full investment for the NLP Practitioner training is £645.
A deposit of £150 secures your place.

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If you would like to speak with me directly for more information before booking, please do give me a call. 0770 481 8467

PLEASE NOTE: This training is not a substitute for people who require counselling or professional help.

Working with Anxiety Workshop : November 12-13 : ONLY £65

Stress and anxiety in one form or another account for up to 70% of the reasons clients come to see us. So it seems clients are contacting us in their quest for a healthier, stress free, happier life.

Perhaps much of the time you are able to connect and offer tools and therapeutic work that can help you clients achieve this. We are also ‘guessing’ sometimes you can’t.

Anxiety Workshop

In these instances have you ever honestly felt as though there is no getting through to a client who is so caught up in their problems nothing seems to release them from being stuck on the proverbial ‘hamster wheel’ they go round and round in?

As a therapist perhaps you yourself have struggled with a busy mind, overthinking, or second guessing yourself? As humans we can all easily fall into the trap without realising we are causing much of our own anxiety and stresses .

Perhaps something we would all benefit from is a bit more patience, to not to get unnecessarily irritable or overwhelmed at certain times and cultivate the ability to neither live in the past or future but live in the now.

I myself was at a funeral a few months ago, while there I watched people and felt myself, go through a wide range of emotions, from devastation, to frustration, anger sadness, fondness to laughter as memories were recalled and tales were told.

Such a vast amount of changing emotions in each and every person, yet nothing had changed – no matter how much we wished it had, so what happened ? How is it possible to change our feelings moment to moment ?” – julie

Understanding how we function as human beings is core to this training – by giving you the therapists real time felt experiences – through simple processes, stories and metaphor – in hand with a deeper understanding about our influenced and influencing part in them, will give and offer you a much greater advantage to helping your clients ( and you ) overcome stress, worry, anxiety and panic.

Who Is This Training For?

This two day training offered by Nigel Hetherington and Julie Brown will be interactive, thought provoking and real.

For Therapists and Counsellors

It is open to anyone who works with clients and through some simple techniques and understanding of how we as people work could quite possibly transform the way you work with clients as well as in your own experience of life with yourself, friends, family and colleagues.

For People Who Want Solutions to Their Anxiety

Most of us have suffered from one form of anxiety or another. This workshop will offer effective tools to help you make friends with and tame your over active thoughts. This of course takes effortful commitment.

Be prepared to come with an open mind allowing everything you have previously been taught to one side, for now and allow yourself to engage from anew.

Date, Venue and Booking

November 12-13 : 9.30am until 17.30pm : £65

Jesmond Dene Conference Center
Jesmond Dene
Newcastle upon Tyne
NE7 7BQ


NLP & Hypnotherapy Practice Weekend : October 1-2

This first coming weekend in October is a lush opportunity to meet up with new and old friends and get right down to lots of practice and play.

Newcastle NLP Hypnotherapy Practice Group

Two to three times a year we run a practice weekend for NLP and Hypnotherapy techniques and process. These practice weekends are just that; Practice! Also the cost is extremely good value at just £30 for the full weekend.

The topics will be a mixture of what you want to explore and practice on the day and some pre defined process.

Venue : Jesmond Dene Conference Centre
Date : October 1-2
Time : 9.30-5.30 each day

BOOKING : ONLY £30 for Saturday & Sunday!





Master Practitioner NLP … Deepening Language Patterning …

While in another life I wrote software for the analysis on images, medical and oil exploitation related I was also completely enthusiastic in the world of NLP. My lunch time consisted of an hour, every five days, to go somewhere, usually Newcastle library and study language patterns.

I was already in the process of mastering language patterns. I had no end goal, no purpose other than the joy of learning and utilisation. I was lucky enough to have been both introduced and directed to study, for fun, NLP’s meta model and Lakoffs & Johnsons Metaphors We Live by at around the same time 2003/4.

Master Practitioner NLP - Language Patterns - Newcastle upon Tyne

I did not make the connections at that time between things I already knew tacitly in terms of martial arts and computer programming. The balance of practice of set pieces and spontaneity to create in the moment. I can not stress enough from my perspective that it is a necessary condition to both practice ‘form’ and to go into flow states to create; and move to mastery.

One of the patterns Rossi & Erickson have mentioned is what is called Implied Directive. Now the name will not necessarily be familiar, yet,  when you realise the pattern and probably have some form of physical response to you’re understanding the pattern.

The Implied Directive is a part of a bigger pattern called Ideo-Dynamic ( which has four parts according to Erickson & Rossi ) something like this, as a formula or structured approach.

Time Directive -> Implication/Presuppostion -> Physical Response ( what does this mean? )

WHEN -> You REALISE SOMETHING of personal IMPORTANCE-> YOU WILL SMILE to yourself. This is something like …

AS SOON as YOU REALISE YOU CAN learn something of importance YOUR EYES WILL BLINK 3 times.

What this is attempting to do is create an honest ( and this is very important ) physical confirmation of a psychological change/realisation.

In trance, the motoric or physical response is ideally one that is honestly unconscious. It is easy to presuppose some movement that we know will happen for sure in the future, such as eye blinking or even touching the head.

To make these formulaic and very good patterns meaningful there are elements to add which can be confirmed in the trance state by way of honest unconscious movements. And … we can mix the elements of the implied directive around to affect the same kind of psycho-somatic presuppositions.

Psycho-Somatic meanings are the emotional and valuable textures of our life.

Smiling unexpectedly ( A PHYSICAL RESPONSE and depotentiating a conscious response AND by implication ) BEFORE you know you are ( TIME BINDING ) can MEAN there is more about you than you consciously know ( IMPLICATION ) is one way to re-structure an implied directive. This is :

PHYSICAL RESPONSE -> TIME BIND -> IMPLICATION

I am sure you can restructure this is any permutation of three different elements to affect similar results.

There is and there are huge benefits in practising and re-implementing all language patterns as much as actually knowing what the language patterns themselves are intended to accomplish and what they can do too!

Language patterns are one aspect of mastering NLP or practising mastery of nlp.

When you realise language patterns are aspects of much greater whole of communicating the ideas of positive change you might find yourself practising them more, even without any outcome in mind … and congruently utilising such patterns when you work with clients, friends or writing blog posts, you might type something that other can use and feel good doing this … maybe …

NLP Master Practitioner Training in Newcastle this coming September.

 

Anxiety for Therapists Workshop : July 9-10

Stress and anxiety in one form or another account for up to 70% of the reasons clients come to see us. So it seems clients are contacting us in their quest for a healthier, stress free, happier life.

Perhaps much of the time you are able to connect and offer tools and therapeutic work that can help you clients achieve this. We are also ‘guessing’ sometimes you can’t.

Anxiety Workshop

In these instances have you ever honestly felt as though there is no getting through to a client who is so caught up in their problems nothing seems to release them from being stuck on the proverbial ‘hamster wheel’ they go round and round in?

As a therapist perhaps you yourself have struggled with a busy mind, overthinking, or second guessing yourself? As humans we can all easily fall into the trap without realising we are causing much of our own anxiety and stresses .

Perhaps something we would all benefit from is a bit more patience, to not to get unnecessarily irritable or overwhelmed at certain times and cultivate the ability to neither live in the past or future but live in the now.

“I myself was at a funeral last week, while there I watched people and felt myself, go through a wide range of emotions, from devastation, to frustration, anger sadness, fondness to laughter as memories were recalled and tales were told.

Such a vast amount of changing emotions in each and every person, yet nothing had changed – no matter how much we wished it had, so what happened ? How is it possible to change our feelings moment to moment ?” – julie

Understanding how we function as human beings is core to this training – by giving you the therapists real time felt experiences – through simple processes, stories and metaphor – in hand with a deeper understanding about our influenced and influencing part in them, will give and offer you a much greater advantage to helping your clients ( and you ) overcome stress, worry, anxiety and panic.

Who Is This Training For?

This two day training offered by Nigel Hetherington and Julie Brown will be interactive, thought provoking and real.

It is open to anyone who works with clients and through some simple techniques and understanding of how we as people work could quite possibly transform the way you work with clients as well as in your own experience of life with yourself, friends, family and colleagues.

Be prepared to come with an open mind allowing everything you have previously been taught to one side, for now and allow yourself to engage from anew.

Date, Venue and Booking

July 9-10 : 9.30am until 17.30pm : £95

Jesmond Dene Conference Center
Jesmond Dene
Newcastle upon Tyne
NE7 7BQ

NLP Practitioner Newcastle August 2016

I didn’t know a single thing about NLP when I attended a weekend introductory course. I was there by pure accident or simple fate. What happened from there changed my life in incredible ways.

Attending the NLP Practitioner was one of the single most useful and life changing things I have done. The tools and techniques helped me change how I thought and communicated. I had totally new ways to relate to others and be much more able to take someone else’s perspectives and understand better.



One aspect of the training is in discovering in a very real sense, what we already know, yet aren’t necessarily consciously aware of. These little discoveries often bring those light bulb moments of deep realisation. One such aspect for me is NLP’s Meta Model.

During that initial training, most of the participants seemed to be very confused about the Meta Model. I think they were stuck on the labels and desperately trying to understand something prematurely. A common experience in so much adult learning. My truth is the Meta Model is incredible easy to learn to use well.

There is absolutely no need to know the labels or terminology. What I learned was how to use the Meta Model to much better understand what people are saying as well as how problems can be both created and resolved. Understanding how to make sense of language is an incredible valuable life skill for me, which is used personally and professionally.

I gained important new and different perspectives about how I think and process information. I also was encouraged to consider what I truly wanted in life.

These teaching and deep learnings lead me to study hypnotherapy, which ultimately lead to a career change to do something meaningful and enjoyable for myself. But that is another story.

This coming August over nine days I am facilitating an NLP Practitioner training in Newcastle. This is a training that will offer you valuable tools and insights that could make your life and your interactions even more interesting.

There are currently eight places still available. The training is fantastic value at £595. For details of the NLP Practitioner and booking please click on this LINK.

Master Practitioner in NLP Newcastle

When I participated in my first NLP practitioner I really didn’t know what to expect or what I was letting myself in for. Yes I had really enjoyed a couple of NLP introduction courses but I really didn’t know. The frame of not knowing or even anticipating, still to me is one of incredible freshness in opportunities.

Completing that first NLP practitioner left me with so many questions and so much curiosity that my only question was when can I do the Master Practitioner?

NLP Master Practitioner Newcastle

During that first practitioner, what I learned through experience in the course as well as an obsessional amount of extra curricular reading and practice with my fellow travellers was life changing. I reflect back on this time now with sincere gratitude because for me there were so very many doors opened to realising, at that time my limited perspectives and how I can choose to explore.

One of my favourite teachers in Buddhism is Robert Thurman. Something I heard him say recently goes something like this ”even if you know the teaching, you should listen like you are learning something new, for the first time” and this is so relevant to actual learning. If we think we know it, there is the potential to gloss over and miss some new and deep insight.

There is a interstellar gulf between intellectual knowing and the kind of real knowledge that comes from experience and even then is only relevant in any one moment. This is the essence of wisdom. One is something we can talk about, for instance meditation and something we can communicate that makes a real difference, like someone who has engaged and discovered what meditation can actually bring forth.

So back to NLP Master Practitioner training

What I loved was the opportunity to really and more deeply understand the fundamentals of nlp interventions as well as one form of modelling. In this instance, analytical modelling which is a very useful skill. This involves questioning the exemplar and exploring their beliefs and values to ‘create’ a thought process which one can attempt to turn into a set of steps.

There are other ways of modelling which imo are far better suited to acquiring an embodied skill set such as deep trance identification or what is called unconscious physicalised uptake. These methods bypass verbal descriptions. In actuality all of these methods can complement each other.

By far the most important experiences I had were gaining deeper and more influential methods to expand my own world views as well as being able to engage with others, understanding deep motivations with behavioural and thinking structures. This was formative in my decision to become a therapist and change facilitator. It also lead to a big career change, but that is another story.

NLP Master Practitioner beginning September 2016

This coming September I am running an NLP Master Practitioner training in Newcastle. The training is 10 days over five months, one weekend per month.

There will be ample opportunities to deepen and broaden your NLP skills as well as lots of new material not taught on the NLP Practitioner training. This includes Meta Programs, Patterns of Reformulation and Modelling.

Want to find out more? You can discover a little about the course content by clicking here.

Booking is open now. There is £150 non-refundable deposit and the total cost of 10 days training is £695. The training is weekends only.