Monthly Archives: August 2007

North East Hypnotherapy Practice Group

This friendly and experienced Newcastle based Hypnotherapy Practice group set up by Paul Shaftoe and Chris Burrow meets once per month on Monday night to practice practice practice.

All levels of experience are welcome.

Lindisfarne Social Club. West Street, Wallsend, NE28 8LG

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For more information contact

Paul Shaftoe

Chris Burrow

8 questions to help you choose your hypnotherapist

Choosing a hypnotherapist to assist you through a particular problem stage in your life or to assist you to improving your performance is not always the easiest thing to do.

With this in mind I have complied a list of questions you can ask that will help you to make the right decision and so get your life much more the way you want it to be.

Questions 1-4 are pretty standard and usually worth some consideration.

Question 5-8 are extremely important as this will have a big effect on you and your treatment and are a reflection of both the skill and character of the hypnotherapist you choose to help you.

The Obvious Questions

  1. What are their qualifications. I have to say not always the most important question although all registered hypnotherapists will hold some hypnotherapy qualification.
  2. Which Professional Body’s are they members of? Most hypnotherapists will be affiliated to one or more professional bodies.
  3. What is their experience. How long has the hypnotherapist been practising. Again this is not necessarily a big issue. Some people relatively new to this field are extremely skilful and conversely some who have been practising decades are still journeymen.
  4. How did you find out about them? Did you find out about them through advertising, word of mouth, blind chance. Again not massively important.

The Important Questions

  1. What is your impression of the hypnotherapist. How do you feel having talked to or met the hypnotherapist. Do they walk their talk, do you believe they can help you make the changes you require? Do you feel confident about their skills? do you say YES this persons for me, Hmmm not sure or NO WAY.
  2. What are your expectations. What specifically do you expect from seeing a hypnotherapist and are you prepared to see it through?
  3. What do they charge and how many sessions will be required?
  4. What guarantee do they offer. Is the service they perform guaranteed? If they can’t help do you pay for them to practice on you? Do you take your car to a garage, pay a large bill and find out your car is in the same state as it was before you brought it in?

Here are my answers

In addition to a holding a Hypnotherapy Diploma I provide certified Hypnotherapist Training in Newcastle upon Tyne. I am an NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner and provides NLP Training in Newcastle upon Tyne.

Professional Bodies
I am registered with the General Hypnotherapy Register ( GHR ) and follow their code of conduct. Communicating Excellence’s is an approved training centre with the General Hypnotherapy Standards Council providing certification for recognised Hypnotherapy Diploma. Nigel provides Hypnotherapy Supervision for therapists and is am a member of the NLP Register and The Professional Guild of NLP.

I started my own training in Hypnosis in 2000 and by 2005 was delivering Hypnotherapy Diploma Training courses. I began my own NLP training in 2001 and became an accredited trainer of NLP in 2005.

How did you find about this Hypnotherapist?
Only you know the answers to this

What is your impression of this Hypnotherapist?

Again only you can know how you feel.

I will assist you in clarifying both your expectations and outcomes. This is important for two reasons, firstly this is how you will know you have achieved what you set out to get and secondly as I guaranteed all my work it is good to know exactly what is being guaranteed.

For example of you wish to use hypnotherapy for weight loss, coming once and hoping it is a miracle cure and expecting huge weight loss in one week is unrealistic in the extreme. Continuing with this example you may expect to notice lasting changes in your eating habits, and a safe gradual weight reduction within a minimum of three sessions.

Charges and Sessions
I charge £45 per hour. This I feel is a reasonable fee most people can afford. I have trained hypnotherapists who charge more than double this so the charge of you treatment is not related to the quality of service you receive. I will help you make your changes in the absolute minimum number of sessions.

I once attempted to book consultation rooms in a Northumberland town and the fist question I was asked was “we already have a hypnotist here and he has a very large number of return clients how many can you bring in” – clearly not a place I wish to be associated with.

I guarantee all my work. This means that once we are both certain you have gotten what you set out to achieve by having tested your new skills and behaviours these changes stay with you.

best wishes
nigel hehterington

Armchair Calibration

The ongoing improvement of your developing calibrating skills should be high, way high, on your practice list. Without calibrating skills NLP Processes are so effective they may still work, but good calibrating skills are the difference between those who operate processes with effective eyes wide shut and those who are genuinely engaged in NLP.

Our practitioner course goes much further than the vague and general ”see what you see and hear what you hear”. Our Newcastle NLP Practitioner and Newcastle Hypnotherapy courses are about the real application and continued development of your NLP calibration skills. So we will direct your attention to the specific things you can detect differences in.

Here is just one way to train you peripheral vision and peripheral focus and all from the comfort of your favourite settee or arm chair while watching whatever you like on the box.

While watching the television programme of you choice

  1. Pull your eyes away from the centre of the screen and
  2. Focus you eyes just past the left top corner of the TV watch for 5 minutes
  3. Focus you eyes just past the right top corner of the TV watch for 5 minutes
  4. Focus you eyes just past the right bottom corner of the TV watch for 5 minutes
  5. Focus you eyes just past the left bottom corner of the TV watch for 5 minutes

Now while you ‘rotate’ you vision around the television, alter your focus to see beyond the television and in front of the television, play around with this until the picture you are seeing with your peripheral vision is focused in your peripheral field.

If you find this too easy move a greater distance beyond the edges of the TV. IF this is currently too difficult start just a short way from the centre of the television.

nigel hetherington

Communicating Excellence
Excellence in Neuro Linguistic Programming and Hypnotherapy

Conversational Belief Change – an example

One of the skill sets you will learn on our NLP Practitioner in Newcastle is applying NLP conversationally. This can often be just a few minutes talking. whether you are a hypnotherapist, a coach or a line manager conversational change processes are really elegant and simple and as I have said short so they can go on over coffee or tea.

The real skill being to recognise the problem presented and through gentle exploration discover where you can apply leverage to help people shift from a problem state to more resourceful ones.

I have chosen to include this example of conversation belief change as it is short and to the point.

If you want to see this example please go to the ‘Free Resources’ section of To access this you will have to have requested my complementary newsletter.

best wishes

nigel hetherington

Communicating Excellence
Excellence in Neuro Linguistic Programming and Hypnotherapy

the Meta Model Easier Made – Part 2

It is surely obvious to all concerned that that old Meta Model is just about hearing some language pattern and responding in a certain way. Clearly not everyone gets this fully the second time. Evidently some people were puzzled and didn’t easily start to apply the Meta Model that they knew consciously so not so surprisingly it got put on a back shelf for a while. So get it out, dust it off and lets get on with making it more easier.

the Meta Model essentially does two things when used ‘as intended’

  1. It assist stuck clients to change – Therapeutic
  2. It gets high quality information – Business / Pleasure / Therapeutic

the Integrity NLP Practitioner in Newcastle naturally will cover the Meta Model and those who are on our Newcastle Hypnotherapy course certainly will leave with an even fuller knowledge of applying this process.

clearly if you are in any therapeutic field like the many complementary therapies or thinking of taking up your calling, you might like to consider our Newcastle hypnotherapy course, anyway it will certainly benefit you knowing a lot more about this set of verbal responses – but clearly, that’s obvious, isn’t it.

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Sleight of Mouth

Here is the final instalment of the examples of Sleight of Mouth.  There is a downloadable PDF in the Free Resources section.

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best wishes

nigel hetherington

the Meta Model Easier Made – Part 1

It makes me genuinely smile genuinely now when some people still visibly cringe when they hear the words ‘the Meta Model‘, Others say “its something I have to learn but I just can’t find the time” yet other say “Its just not possible to learn it allthe Meta Model really is easy.

the Meta Model essentially does two things when used ‘as intended’

  1. It assist stuck clients to change – Therapeutic
  2. It gets high quality information – Business / Pleasure / Therapeutic

For me, and thanks to my friend Ian Berry for facilitating my learning during my NLP Practitioner in Newcastle, the Meta Model just made sense, It clicked, It got me absolutely hooked on what I called then NLP and I now know as applied NLP -in its current form. The Meta Model is again covered more fully on our Newcastle Hypnotherapy course and I am sure you already know like most NLP its nothing new, just repackaged. Socrates’s was, seemingly some 2500 years ago, applying the form of the meta model in purportedly just 6 questions ( so much for simplification ) – Socratic questioning. I will credit him here as he surely deserves it so it means I will.

See, all the Meta Model is is a set of specific verbal responses to a set of very specific words and phrases ‘clients’ and people in general use all the time, and its good to know them. Exactly what these are I will better describe a little later on.

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How to choose your NLP Practitioner course

Our Newcastle based training of our NLP Practitioner course is filling up fast! There are only 7 places left! If you are thinking about doing an NLP Practitioner in Newcastle upon Tyne or in the North East of England then do have a look at our responses to Andy Smith’s guide to choosing an NLP Practitioner course. In addition to NLP you will also learn Hypnotic and Hypnotherapy skills too.

Andy Smith of Practical EQ has written an excellent summary of ways to choose an NLP Practitioner course that’s right for you. Given the plethora of courses available in all sorts of styles, this is a very helpful guide to new ‘NLP shopper’.

Here’s my shortened version of his list.

How to choose a practitioner course

  1. What is the emphasis of the course? Therapy, business, self development or general purpose.
  2. How big is the course? Course sizes can range from 12 to 500! How big would you like your group to be?
  3. ‘Intensive’ or ‘Extensive’? Intensive courses can be as little as 7 days long, extensive courses are usually 20 days long.
  4. How is the course structured?
    Does the course run for 10 days straight, or one weekend a month over
    10 months? Do you want to complete the course quickly or do you want
    time to take it on board and integrate the learning into your life.
  5. How much access do you get to the trainer? Is the trainer available to answer questions or does he use assistants and coaches to do that work?
  6. How much are NLP Practitioner courses? The pricing varies from under £1,000 to £3,000 that’s quite an investment.
  7. How much does the personality of the trainer matter?
    Does your trainer inspire trust? Do you feel at ease with them? If
    possible meet up with them before taking a training to find out what
    they are like.
  8. Does accreditation matter?
    Since there is no official body setting the standards a lot training
    institutes adding their own ‘accreditation’ to the trainings.

Here are Communicating Excellence’s answers

Emphasis of course:
Practical application, our course is structured so that you learn by
doing. NLP is not a theoretical subject and through experiential
learning you will gain skills and techniques that you will be able to
apply in your own life and others. In doing the exercises you will not
only learn NLP you will also develop mentoring or coaching skills that
will assist you in applying NLP with others as well as yourself. We
work from the NLP foundations of rapport, calibration and behavioural
flexibility while having a specific outcome in mind. We also have a
very strong emphasis on ethics and the appropriate use of these powerful skills.

Group size:
To give you the right amount contact and interaction with course
facilitators our maximum group size will be 24 participants. There are
usually two facilitators and at least one assistant.

Length of course:
We adopt The Professional Guild of NLP’s minimum contact time of 120
hours direct contact. We run your course over 10 months and this 20
days at one weekend per month. We understand the importance of having
time to integrate your learning through experience we have found this
format works best.

There is absolutely no requirement to do any additional outside study or
purchase additional materials as all required material is provided and
our comprehensive course more than covers The Professional Guild of
NLP’s requirements for Practitioner Level training.
For those who want to know more we provide a comprehensive reading, audio and video list to help them
develop their understanding and skills.

Structure of the course:
Our NLP Practitioner course is one weekend per month over a ten month
period. We give a lot of time to experiential learning, a cycle of
instruction, practice and reflection.
At the beginning of each weekend, in
keeping with our emphasis on practical application in the real world,
we share and explore our experiences of NLP over the past month and
share our learnings and discoveries as well as answering any questions
that arise.

Access to the facilitators:
During the course the facilitators and assistants are readily available
during the training and breaks. Participants are encouraged to ask
questions and fully participate in the experiential learning.
We don’t leave in-between
training weekends we offer an on-line forum where you can ask questions
and share thoughts and experiences with your fellow participants and

How much is the course:
We strongly believe that this amazing and incredibly beneficial
technology that is NLP should be within reach of as many people as
possible. We provide excellent and affordable training (we don’t use
fancy hotels or drive flashy cars) our NLP Practitioner course is great
value at just £995 or £850 if you book early.

Personality of your facilitators:
We have three very different trainers working on our NLP Practitioner
Training. We think that the wide variety of approaches beautifully
demonstrates that there is no one ‘true’ way of using NLP it can be
used effectively in many ways by many different people. You don’t have
to be a clone of the trainer to get results.

We welcome people
from all walks of life on our NLP Practitioner training. We also make
clear that an NLP Practitioner Training is an opportunity to learn
skills not a substitute for therapy. Although it is likely that what
you will learn on the course can change your life.

IntegrityNLP training facilitators are accredited NLP Trainers with The
Professional Guild of NLP, one of our trainers is also accredited as an
NLP Trainer by Dr. John Grinder ( the co-creator ) of NLP.

Your NLP Practitioner is certified by The Professional Guild of NLP.

How we assess your progress.

  • Through continuous assessment throughout the course
  • There is no written examination ( NLP is a practical application subject )
  • The
    final weekend is a series of practical exercises that are designed to
    show your application of your learnings over the course period. Unlike
    exams most people really enjoy the experience.

Introduction to Hypnosis

Hello and Welcome

Communicating Excellence
is running a two day introduction to the beneficial uses of hypnosis – please note this is not stage hypnosis!


This workshop will concentrate on how to use hypnosis for beneficial change work and entering states of relaxation for the purposes of meditation, healing, deep relaxation and stress elimination.

The workshop will run over two days where day 1 concentrates on the fundamental skills and day two really puts these skills to practical uses.

The two days will be about doing hypnosis so this means the days will mostly consist of practical exercises with short feedback sessions. Participants will receive a comprehensive set of course notes. This hypnosis workshop take place in Newcastle upon Tyne in early December – just in time to put your new skills into practice over the holiday period!

Who is this workshop for?

This is for anyone who is interested in discovering and experiencing what hypnosis is about and what you can do with it. Ideal for the healing and helping professions, self development and a great place to start if you are thinking about pursuing a more advanced hypnotherapy qualification.

What is covered in the two days?

Day 1

  • What is a hypnotic trance state?
  • How to recognise trance or hypnotic state
  • The Unconscious Mind
  • Hypnotising others and hypnotising self
  • Hypnotic Language Patterns

Day 2

  • Communicating with your unconscious mind
  • Making Ecological Changes in your own life
  • More Hypnotic Inductions
  • Deep Trance State
  • How to use Hypnosis for Beneficial Change and Problem Resolution

Christmas apart from being a time for family and friends seems traditionally to be associated with Stress and more Stress So why not treat yourself to an early Christmas present that you can use for the rest of your life. To help both yourself and others in responsible, caring and ecological ways.

Venue and Dates

This workshop will be held at St’Oswalds in Gosforth on Saturday and Sunday the 8th and 9th December. Time 10am – 5pm.

Booking Information

Day 1 cost £50
Day 1 and 2 cost £80

Please be aware the number of places is restricted to 12 participants

You can book your place by either telephoning

0770 481 8467

Or you can book online below

To book only day 1 for £50 click below

To book full workshop day 1&2 for £80 click below

Communicating Excellence
Excellence in Neuro Linguistic Programming and Hypnotherapy

Loosening up limiting beliefs

Hello and Welcome

Many NLP and Hypnotherapeutic processes are concerned with beneficial change.

If you were to watch a flower grow and bloom over the spring and summer, you will know that in addition to preparing for the next season of change this seasons change does not happen all at once, it is a gradual unfolding over time that culminates in blossom and the increasing of life.

On Saturday I was at my good friend and NLP Trainer’s Simon Bonnin’s and, as we often do we ended up exploring and experimenting with NLP and Hypnotherapy change processes. Now we have jointly come up with something we want to share. It is incredibly simple and incredibly effective.

Communicating Excellence is running an NLP Practitioner beginning this September as well as a Hypnotherapy Diploma course ( both in Newcastle upon Tyne ) and this process will certainly be demonstrated on both courses, however here it is here first.

This process works on so called ‘limiting beliefs’ and the process works at the level of values and importance to loosen up the so called ‘limiting belief’

Here is an example

I cant feel happy [ limiting belief and implied value ]

Do you believe it is important to feel happy?
Do you believe it will be valuable to you to feel happy?
Is feeling happy important enough and valuable enough to change that old belief?

[ if there is a no response to any of these 3 questions respect the answer and stop here – after all this is just loosening! ]

Do you think, it is now possible for you to feel happy.

[ respect any answer – its just loosening! ]

Here is the verbal pattern

I cant ‘X’ [ limiting belief and implied value ]

Do you believe it is important to ‘X’?

Do you believe it will be valuable to you to ‘X’?

Is ‘X’ important enough and valuable enough to change that old belief?

[ if there is a no response to any of these 3 questions respect the response and stop here – after all this is just loosening! ]

Do you think, it is now possible for you to ‘X’.

[ respect any response – its just loosening! ]

Communicating Excellence

Excellence in Neuro Linguistic Programming and Hypnotherapy