Monthly Archives: June 2009

Meta Programs, The iPhone and NLP Newcastle

There has been some very good weather recently in Newcastle upon Tyne and like myself, I hope you have made and taken the opportunities to enjoy it while it lasts. While away enjoying this summer sun and balmy heat I have been out in the city centre.

And like any other day in Newcastle, I saw one or two street entertainers playing things from what looked like a cup with a rubber band, a one stringed guitar, a drum, a flute, you know, the usual mixture of good and bad. But one man playing an accordion really caught my eye.

During a pause from his playing, this very skilled, tanned and silver haired accordion player started to fumble in his pocket and pulled out a very new looking iPhone.  With fingers seemingly as dexterous on his iPhone as his accordion, he looked to be checking email or texts or perhaps just surfing the web.

So how come I noticed his iPhone? Meta Programs.

Some people say meta programs can be described as the generalised repetitive patterns of thought, perception and behaviour that people seem to have.  Another way to describe meta programs is where you focus your attention.

Please, these patterns are mostly unconscious, unless you know about them. You see, if you have completed an NLP Practitioner you will already know quite a bit about meta programs … but just in case you yet don’t, let me share a short example …

One of my friends, I remember like it was just yesterday, once told me he had started dating someone and the first time he went to her house he was in the kitchen. Looking around the kitchen out of all the things he saw there he noticed a cup.  Now this cup was the same as one his ex-partner has.

Out of everything there to be see in the kitchen his focus of attention noticed the one thing that was similar.  This perception of noticing ‘sameness’ is called in meta program language ‘Sort for Similarity’.  He then, not his best move,  continued to tell his new girlfriend his new discovery.

One thing to understand about meta programs is that they are neither good not bad in and of themselves, they are simply repetitive patterns of thought and behaviour.  So sorting for similarity will be valuable in some context and sorting for difference will be valuable in some context.

For example, sometimes, some specific meta program(s) may be responsible for a person having a string of failed relationships, they pick the same kind of partner and they have the same kind of experiences which massively contribute to an unhappy and then terminal relationship.

Perhaps in such cases noticing what is different in a fairly specific way could … and I stress could … clear the way for a much healthier more loving and mutually supportive relationships.

This is about not only recognising the language and behaviour of other and ourselves but even more so about being able to change our language and behaviour to ethically realise more of our desires and dreams. To be able to change meta programs for positive applications and purpose.

I don’t want you to take my word for this, just simply consider the possibility that, it is possible to alter, change and influence our own meta programs depending on what we want to achieve or even what someone else wants to achieve.

I am sure you are aware and now getting the bigger picture that the unconscious meta programs you run are to a large extent your patterns that determine your successes and failures in life.

All right, now, so how useful do you believe it is to coaches, therapists, personal developers and any one in the business of change to have a really deep understanding of the application of meta programs?

Our Newcastle NLP Master Practitioner explores and unpacks meta programs in terms of language and behaviour patterns in even deeper and more sophisticated ways than our NLP Practitioner training covers.

And here is an additional invite for NLP Practitioner and NLP Master Practitioners, re-read this article and look out for all of the meta programs. Notice anything you find yourself agreeing with and the ideas and concepts that see to appeal to you but also look out for things that you don’t agree with or sentences that do not entirely grip you.

Our NLP Newcastle based Practitioner and NLP Master Practitioner courses begin this coming September and if you already have an NLP qualification and wish to to it again for all the additional benefits you can for half the usual course price. Now which meta programs does this great offer appeal to?

And while the sun is still out and shining I want to finish my story, and you might be wondering, so how come I noticed this highly skilled accordion players iPhone? Well no mystery there, I have one too!

The weather forecast is suggesting that this coming week the UK will this week experience a week long heat wave. So if you are out walking practising noticing NLP Meta Programs in Newcastle upon Tyne, you might like to keep your eyes peeled to see not just accordion players but one with an iPhone.

Newcastle NLP Practitioner Training – Participants Stories

Imagine how much better your life really would be when you can run your own mind and body in the ways you really want to. In what ways will your life change for the better when you get to master advanced communication skills?  And … think how good it will be when your feeling much better about yourself as well as how you act and behave in the world.

If you are considering taking a Neuro Linguistic Programming  training be it an introductory weekend or a full practitioner training it is worth your consideration of the variety of NLP training courses available.  There are several Newcastle NLP Trainings to choose from ranging from quick fix one week long courses to the more professionally designed six or ten month NLP learning experiences.

But … what is NLP really about and how does it change your life?

This amazing book, So, what is it you’re doing? is written by participants from IntegrityNLP and Communicating Excellence NLP Practitioner Trainings in Newcastle upon Tyne.  Find out how NLP has transformed and enriched these wonderful peoples lives. Real stories from real people describing their own unique and ongoing NLP Journeys.

If you choose to purchase this book and then go on to do an NLP Practitioner training with Communicating Excellence or IntegrityNLP you will be eligiable for a £75 discount from the NLP training  course.

Buddhism, Enlightenment and NLP – Part Three

thailand buddha handImage by FriskoDude via Flickr

Carrying on from the previous post about NLP and the connections to Buddhism or more precisely one of many ways towards what is tentatively called enlightenment or as I prefer to say living in an authentic life and being comfortable in your own skin …

So, having read the last post and having acknowledged the positive purpose of the unwanted emotion, we can then use one of many NLP therapeutic processes to heal the regrets of the past.

One of the simplest methods of doing this is to change, what is know as the sub-modalities of the ‘memory’. Our memories are re-experienced through our five senses and the sub modalities are the smaller components of each of our five senses.

Here is one way for you to heal your own regret. Work on one specific ‘regret memory’ at a time and follow the process all the way through.

  1. Remember a situation or memory that at one time you did regret but now, when you think about it you realize and acknowledge the learning and the value of that learning such that having had that experience has in fact made you a much better, more rounded person with far greater resources and skills. Let’s call this the ‘reference memory’.
  2. Still thinking about the memory you, at one time regretted, but now see this as a resource; answer the following questions, making a list of your answers.
    • Where is the memory located? Point to it! Is it up to your left, down to your right, is it central in front of you, is it behind you to the right? You need to find the spatial location. Find out where abouts in your own personal space the memory seems to be.
    • Is the memory colour or black and white?
    • Is the memory like a picture, series of pictures or a DVD movie?
    • Is the memory life size, smaller or bigger?
    • Do you see yourself in the memory or is it like you are looking out of your own eyes?
    • What sounds accompany the memory and what is their location? There may be many or none!
    • What smells are you aware of that accompany this memory?
    • Is the memory sharp and clear or fuzzy and blurred?
  3. Write all your answers down and then go and make a cup of tea and come back in a few minutes.
  4. Now think about the specific situation, memory or incident you do still regret and answer the following questions, make a list of:
    • Where is the memory located? Point to it! Is it up to your left, down to your right, is it central in front of you, is it behind you to the right? You need to find the spatial location. Find out where abouts in your own personal space the memory seems to be.
    • Is the memory color or black and white?
    • Is the memory like a picture, series of pictures or a DVD movie?
    • Is the memory life size, smaller or bigger?
    • Do you see yourself in the memory or is it like you are looking out of your own eyes?
    • What sounds accompany the memory and what is their location? There may be many or none!
    • What smells are you aware of that accompany this memory?
    • Is the memory sharp and clear or fuzzy and blurred?
  5. You now have two lists of the sub modalities of each memory. Here is how to run your own brain. Look for the differences between the two experiences, for example are the two memories in different locations? Is one color and one black and white? You get the idea right! Differences here are the important factors!
  6. Start to make the sub modalities ( one at a time ) of the ‘regret’ memory the same as the ‘reference memory’ you used to regret and notice how your emotional response changes. It is your brain you can make any changes you want to make. Changes can be changed back or kept depending on how you feel.

Now maybe Buddha did not use this specific NLP process ( there are rather a lot to select from ) as he took many days to achieve his enlightenment and this can change how you feel much more rapidly. In a matter of minutes, you can have really practised this skill more fully.  But perhaps Buddha had, like the rest of us, a great many regrets so he worked through them all, systematically, one at a time. NLP like Buddhism is about continued practice so please accept the invite to change, one at a time, the things you regret.

NLP is about learning how to run your own brain to get the kind of results you want in a systematic way.

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Eye Movement Integration and STEP training for Coaches and Therapists

Therapists and change consultants are very often required to help your clients work through traumatic emotional memories and imprints.  As a coach one of the frequent tasks you will face is assisting your clients to remove limiting beliefs and disabling past traumatic imprints.

STEP ( Simple Trauma Elimination Process ) is a training course that combines the very powerful  NLP Eye Movement Integration and EFT Emotional Freedom Technique. EMI and EFT likely the two most powerful and profound techniques that when used with competence can eliminate most traumatic imprints in just one session.

Being able to help your clients  overcome blocks and trauma in one session may seem hard to believe but this proven process gets results that many therpists we have trained really can not believe.

You are invited to watch part one of this YouTube video of Eye Movement Integration  demonstration to see for yourself how this neurologically based trauma elimination method, created by Steve Andreas works in a real situation.  Notice also that all due ecology checks are made with this client during an NLP Practitioner training in Newcastle.

Sound Quality not brilliant – so watch the process!


NLP Parts Integration Demonstration – Part One

NLP Parts work and Parts Integration are major techniques and process in any NLP Practitioner Training.  Our NLP Newcastle Practitioner training provides comprehensive experiential learning of a multitude of NLP Parts work applications.

Parts Integration can be used to explore decision making, resolve internal conflict and correct problematic behaviours.

Parts Integration can also be used to enhance desired behaviours such as sports performance or motivations to attain more of what you want in life.

If you would like an exclusive DVD video of Parts Work analogies and metaphor please request the Communication Excellence complementary NLP and Hypnosis resources and newsletter.

The following YouTube clip is part one of an NLP Parts Integration demonstration recorded from one of our NLP Practitioner training courses in Newcastle upon Tyne.


NLP Eye Movement Integration – To Generate and Create Positive States

One of the first questions any competent therapist or change consultant will ask you is “What do you want?”

Once you know, and are clear about what you want, be it a new car, happiness, feeling comfortable in your own skin, promotion at work or even more money to do even more of what you want … the next question will very likely be …

“So when you have this, how will you know you have got it?” This is one ( of several ways ) way of checking your evidence for achieving your dreams and goals.  The incredibly interesting and most often missing ‘juice’ to this is the sustained motivation or feeling that makes and drives you to go and get it!

The bottom line in achieving your dreams, goals and wishes is having the fuel or juice supply that drives you to get it.  This is about creating the feeling or ‘state’ that makes achieving not just all the more possible but in essence drives the process.

Eye Movement Integration is classically used to reduce and eliminate unwanted emotional responses, but and it is a but, the same structure has the exact potential to generate resource states and motivations to drive you to go and get it!

Look up and watch ‘just another NLP way to generate seriously powerful motivations’. This YouTube clip is taken from an NLP Newcastle Practitioner training by Nigel Hetherington.  NLP EMI can be used ( like EFT ) to create and install the motivation or juice to power you to getting more of what you want.


NLP State Elicitation – Part Four

One of the commonalities between yoga and NLP is the way people can change how they feel or change their state.

There are essentially two ways in yoga to change how you feel.  One way is physically doing exercises, especially related to breathing and breath control. The other is mentally doing exercises commonly know as meditation or as spiritual exercises.

The particularly interesting parallel being like so many highly successful ways to personal development they follow a middle path, developing and practising both methods.

After the original creators of NLP parted company from some shared foundations, Grinder seems to have favoured a physical accent on his work which he named New Code NLP.  Bandler further developed the internal arts in the way of his sub modalities and later Neuro Hypnotic Repatterning.

By completing an NLP Practitioner training, participants will experience and learn a variety of ways in which you can change your state, or to put it another way learn how to change the way you feel.

This YouTube video is from an NLP Practitioner training in Newcastle upon Tyne.  Nigel Hetherington demonstrates how both internal ( sub modality ) and external ( physicalised ) methods are explored in the same exercise to generate personally resourceful states.


Buddhism, Enlightenment and NLP – Part Two

BuddhismImage by shapour bahrami via Flickr

Not every reader will be aware of the fact that many of the people who are developing and exploring their own spirituality, interestingly enough, do have something in common with people who are studying NLP.

Now these connections may not be immediately obvious, so here is an invitation for you to look at some parallel lines of exploration.

In relating the science of NLP to the spirituality of Buddhism there are some very clear connections in terms of outcomes or to put it another way, what students from either of these discipline’s can anticipate from their efforts and studies because …

Both Buddhism and NLP at the higher level are concerned with moving towards true personal freedom. Ultimately it is about being able to feel how you want to feel much more of the time.

So to draw the first parallel let’s again recount the first temptation of the Buddha by the demon Kama, the Buddhas ‘solution’ to this problem and then see how you can do this from an NLP perspective.

Kama sends by proxy his three daughters Regret, Fulfillment and Desire. Buddha being, still on his immovable spot, disengaged from the field of time, he is able to refute all three emotions and be free from desire, regret and fulfillment.

All very well for Buddha to deal with these emotions but the question many people will be asking is “how do I deal with these emotions?

Let’s explore regret. Regret is specifically about the past. Regret is a reviewing and reliving of past memories and for whatever reasons ( the list could be very long ) ruing the things that either were or were not done. Often times this in not even a choice to relive the memory it just seems to run and re-run all by itself. The brain just seems to do what it wants and not what you want.

Now, what if, like Buddha, you could change your past memories, here specifically regret, such that all the learning’s and education are preserved yet they have a completely neutral or even oddly pleasurable emotional response to the ‘same’ memory?

Looking through the therapeutic lens of applied NLP, regret is an indication that some value, some behavior or experience that is especially important to you was in some way transgressed. This applies irrespective weather the regret is about something that did happen ( and wish it hadn’t ) or something that did not happen ( and wish it had ).

You know, we learn by making ‘mistakes’ so being able to keep the learning and dissolved any unwanted emotion is what this is about.

First and foremost and often the hardest step for people is to acknowledge that the feeling of regret is serving some very positive purpose. This feeling of regret can act like a ‘flag’ or ‘marker’ so that in any similar future situations, you will act differently and in ways that will respect and support the transgressed value.

The third article of this series will give a simple step by step process of how you can change the way you think

about regret and start to run your own brain for a change.

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NLP Fast Phobia Cure – Part Two

The V-K Dissociation or Fast Phobia Cure is one of the most well known NLP therapeutic intervention processes.  The Fast Phobia Cure process as we understand it has been ‘incorporated’ into Human Givins as the ‘Rewind Process’.

Demonstrating here in part two of three video clips, Andy Hunt from IntegrityNLP is seen doing the NLP Fast Phobia Cure during an NLP Practitioner training course in Newcastle upon Tyne.


NLP Parts Integration – Introduction

Many different therapies and change process use the concept or model of parts. Parts can be thought of as the smaller components of identity or personality that are responsible for behaviours or aspects of identities that play out in a persons life.

Parts can be thought of as creative, argumentative, stubborn or loving.  Parts can be thought to be responsible for smoking, responsible for playing better golf or even preventing you changing jobs and keeping you safely in your comfort zone.

NLP has borrowed and stolen concepts and methodologies from the original NLP exemplars Fritz Pearls, Virginia Satir and Milton Erickson – who all used some kind of parts work in their therapies and has further advanced these exemplars skills into what is know as NLP Parts Integration techniques.

Nigel Hetherington introduces the concept of parts work during an NLP Practitioner training in Newcastle upon Tyne.