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#TAG – Guru-Kanga Will Never Free You But They May Point A Way

An NLP Practitioner training will offer you structured practices in a very wide variety of techniques that are geared towards your own personal psychological well being.

The tools and process inherent in NLP are of great utility in the helping professions by way of therapeutic interventions and also directly relevant to you with enhancing opportunities with powerful communication skills.

I am much more interested in participants having real skills as oppose to a highly theoretical understanding of techniques. There are no powerpoint offerings. There are demonstrations and then lots of practice so you really understand the deep principles by way of practice.

Do you want serious skills so you can be more successful, more peaceful and more effective at your work with others? Of course the answer is certainly yes. But do you think that will happen without basics and practice? Well possibly … thought without relevant frames of reference, relevant practice and relevant knowledge I think highly unlikely.

What I want to share with you are some thoughts and experiences, what I call The Transmission Effect and what I call ‘The No Structures Vacuum’. This is both simple and complex at the same time but isn’t it always?

It’s simple in that you will have almost certainly been in the immediate company of someone who ‘transmits’ ( you may think of Joseph Campbell, Mariane Diamond, John Grinder, Neil DeGrasse Tyson, Richard Dawkins, Pema Chodron or The Dali Lama ) irrespective if you agree with their sentiments or not; They are very congruent in their messages. We go to see these experts to gain their knowledge and wisdom but are we always prepared to put the graft in to really getting it as a replicable process or skill?

Being in the presence of such a transmitter, for most who actively listen and engage in set exercises or drills, will leave with some kind of deep experience where the principles, perhaps more that the words will be remembered. Their sharings or more specifically their stories touch at a far deeper level than just words. For me, these people are what I call transmitters.

It’s complex in the sense that what they transmit, at least as far as I can understand, is deeply rooted in structures and process that have taken them a life time to master and continue to shape.

The No Structures Vacuum is what is all so often realised by attending some talk, watching a DVD or being inspired by a halo affected presenter. Think shopping channel, think effortless weight loss info-mercial, think one week later another miracle weight loss product in the cupboard under the stairs gathering dust.

The No Structures Vacuum is the missing link between information and concepts to actual practice and knowledge.

Let me offer an example:

OK now you know about Marian Diamond’s 5 essentials for a healthy brain ( 7 minutes in ). You can have all the stories and factual information you can get but unless you actively seek these out and apply it’s just information.

Many people will attend a workshop, buy a self help book or audio and ‘hope’ that somehow a miraculous transmission of an experts skills will manifest magically into their neurology.

You won’t be surprised that this mostly does not happen. I believe this is because there are no structures developed enough to make this ‘miracle’ just happen.
Miracle products look and feel great because they are marketed to hit our emotional desire centres hard; Activating what we perceive is ‘missing from our lives’ offering the solution to ‘our problems’ and almost always usually won’t work without some active and prolonged effort.

Because real skill or particularly long term positive effects require structures that you build through practice and effort.

I have recently been to an excellent talk by Dicken Bettinger in Manchester. This was a 3 Principles talk. Do you mean you don’t know about the 3P’s? It’s relatively new wave idea in the world of NLP, Coaching and the Self Improvement .

The 3P’s is the work of Sydney Banks and has been around for decades. and as I understand it has been used at a high level in many business for a long time not unlike NLP.

Several of the top NLP, Coaches, Change Workers in the world are using a3P’s and writing books about the 3P’s and running 3P workshops. Working with 3P’s now may be both a highly lucrative venture as well as an up to date ‘kind of’ spiritual practice that is the new scene.

All of these giants of world class coaches, trainers and change workers have many things in common. One huge one is they have been learning and developing their own deep structures through practice and time for many many years. That to me is why they are world class.

So back to the workshop from Dicken

I was very curious to hear, from a long established proponent of 3P’s what it was all about. I have to say what I had read, watched and gleaned from the internet was confusing for me. I went with no expectations at all, just anticipations to get a clear sense of what this 3P’s is all about. I feel my anticipations were fulfilled.

Quite literally two days of storytelling that for me was inspiring to listen to. Many examples from Dickens own life, parallels Buddhism and other traditions. Recollections of Sydney Banks as teachings and personal stories. Something that really came across was the freshness of Dickens words. He said he was speaking from inspiration, from a quiet mind. The word intention was mentioned many times.

Dicken as a world class and highly engaging speaker mentioned that he has meditated for around 30 years regularly and sometimes many hours; at the expense of family relationships and discovering his meditations for calm went awry and often didn’t work in the real world. Yet he stayed with them for decades. Then I understand he found the 3P’s.

Having spent decades meditating, laying down of neural structures and in his decades as a professional change worker ( I think he said psychotherapist ) laying down other structures, the time doing this was not missed to me.

I have been practising fairly regular meditation for years and the meditation I am currently engaged with is extremely useful to me and for me in lots of ways. I have been building structures.

I have been interested in ‘spirituality’ for many years, listening to ‘gurus’, ‘enlightened people’ both contemplating and doing the exercises inherent in their offerings, again I have been building structures. The more I listen, say a month later or a year later to the same offering I usually get a deeper meaning or a different insight.

The transmission effect without structures seems to create ‘states’ or fleeting experiences that don’t last. Ken Wilber suggests practice over time can transform states into permanent traits. I hope you really make the distinction because it is very important in transforming information into practical real world skills.

If you are considering participating in an experiential NLP training program you will want to check out the NLP Practitioner Newcastle page so you can discover much more about what this kind of training will offer you.

Booking is open now for January 2015 … make it happen.

The best experiences can’t be talked about. The next best are often misunderstood because they are attempting to talk about the best by way of metaphor and analogy and are not to be taken literally.

Walk your own path, not the one that your culture or society placed upon you.

The next training takes place January 2015.