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Hugging For Health and Wellbeing – 100% natural

My very good friend Steve, one of the best Bowen practitioners in the North East of England gave me this recently. It is simply sooo good that I have to share it with the rest of the world!

Reciprocal Links With Other Therapists – Necessarily Bad Business Sense?

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There has for me been a noticeable increase in email this month from hypnotherapists inviting me to link to their site and in return offering to link back to my site.

This is of course an interesting proposal, swapping a link for a link … maybe Communicating Excellence and Nigel Hetherington Clinical Hypnotherapist climbing higher in the google search engines … too good to be true?

Well as a therapist possibly considering emailing a freshly harvested list of other therapists from the many watering holes on the internet with goal of link swapping, consider what is implied when you invite someone to swap a link?

You are to all intents and purpose endorsing the person you link to … you are putting your well earned reputation on the line.

I will only swap links with people who I know are particularly competent therapists because by way of swapping a link, this therapist becomes my personal recommendation.

I invite you to carefully consider with whom you may or may not swap links because for one, all qualified therapist are not equal. All trainings are not equal. I have met way too many ‘qualified’ hypnotherapists that are only just about good enough for reading a script from a book to their clients. Could be this is the very person who wants to swap a link with you?

Reciprocal Links with Therapists – Not Necessarily Bad Business Sense?

Well all things considered my proposal is for you to reject link swapping emails should you receive them. Politely decline these invitations or save time and mark them as SPAM. A well earned reputation is really worth preserving and you know your behaviours indicate your values … protect the public and your well earned reputation.

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10 Hints & Tips for surviving a temporary recession – HT Six

This Soviet war poster conveys the message: Image via WikipediaFollowing on from the last hint and tip are you still chattering away to yourself or have you committed some time to applying yourself to the meditation to stop your internal dialogue? Either way, you can do even more.

There are times to have your attention focused fully on the outside world. Paying attention to other people and the opportunities that are very often present for much of the time. Opportunities such as potential new careers,  meeting new and interesting people, noticing works of art or perhaps really exceeding your customers expectations. That’s the ability to actually just be in the moment, a human-being.

Gordon Brown is said to be about to tell the British public “The recession is a test of character the British people must pass“as well as we Brits to  “rise to the challenge of the economic crisis“. Now this may indeed be a good sentiment for us Brits who are now and will be paying in many ways for what is essentially ‘greed’ gone mad. But how do we survive a recession. Specifically, what can we do?

Taking charge of how you feel, physically and emotionally is one of the good places to start.

A great many people talk themselves into unfavourable emotional states and even ill health. Being able to stop your own negative internal dialogue is one way you can make yourself feel better and be more resourceful to be able to rise to the uninvited challenges that will test your character.

Fear not – if the internal chatter hasn’t quite stopped yet, there is an nlp way that will usually dramatically shorten the meditative time requirement to stop your internal dialogue. For those who think just reading this will be enough, sorry! Again you have to do the exercise.

One of the massive influences on and in NLP is the works of Carlos Castenada.  He mentions his benefactors inferences on the importance of ‘Stopping the World’ as a prerequisite of personal genius and growth.

What is the Stopping the World?

Its quite simple, its an allegory for stopping the internal dialogue. And as a result it is about being present in the moment. Being present in the moment is arguably what Zen Buddhism is all about and one of Master Yoda’s teachings too, so it can’t be bad.

The importance and value of being able to, to have the choice to stop the internal chatter can never ever be overstated.

It is about having additional choice as to how to experience and as a result act in the world.

I remember once someone I know very well telling me how they kept track of where they are during performances and presentations, by taking to themselves most of the time in their internal dialogue. I was also privileged to view their performance and noticed how much of the audience responses and interactions they missed by talking to themselves.

Some of the people also watching this made the comment the performer in question was ‘wooden’ and some described this person patronising. I saw this with my own eyes and thought this person was a considerable way out of touch with their audience, missing important real time feedback.

This about it this way. I am sure you have been engaged in a conversation with a friend or colleague and then some thought of your own side tracks you and a little later you find yourself nodding ( in hopefully the right palaces ) and having no real idea what the other person has just said. I think this is an experience we all have had ourselves at some time.

So what can you do about it?

the good news is its actually very simple.

We experience the world with our five senses. What we see, smell, hear, taste and feel.

Think back to the last time you saw a film or listened to some music,it doesn’t matter which. Now remembering the sounds from this memory, answer the following for yourself.

  • Where does the sound sources(s) come from? Left, right, behind, above, directly in front etc?
  • What is the volume of the sound? High, low, natural sound etc?

Now think back to a conversation you have had recently. Answer the following for yourself.

  • Where does the person you are talking with voice sound like it comes from.  Left, right, behind, above, directly in front etc?
  • What is the volume of their voice? High, low, natural sound etc?
  • What vocal qualities does their voice have? Gravelly, whispery, sharp, angry, sexy, soft
  • What is the tone of their voice? High, low, modulating, monotone?
  • What is their rate of speech? Fast, slow, medium?

Before you work with your own internal dialogue, here is an experiment for you to try. Remember back to that conversation you had recently and have a play with changing individually all the qualities you identified.

If they spoke fast, slow it right down. If they have a gravely voice change it to a soft whispery voice.  If they speak in a high tone make it a low tone. If they were in front of you, imagine they are off to one side then the other.

It is really important that you take just five minutes and experiment and change things around.You can have as much fun as you wish doing this.

Working with your own internal dialogue

OK, here it is. It is really important for you to have done all the previous exercises ( about 8 minutes ) if you want to get the most out of this. Now, check in your own internal dialogue and answer these questions.

  • Where does your internal voice sound like it comes from.  Left, right, behind, above, directly in front etc?
  • What is the volume of your internal voice? High, low, natural sound etc?
  • What vocal qualities does your internal voice have? Gravelly, whispery, sharp, angry, sensuous, soft
  • What is the tone of your internal voice? High, low, modulating, monotone?
  • What is your rate of speech? Fast, slow, medium?
  • Now, whose voice does your internal dialogue sound like?

The first thing to to is realise that in the same way you changed the qualities of someone else’s voice you can do the same with your own. Here are some things to experiment with.

  1. Change the volume of your internal voice. Make it go absolutely silent, make it louder.
  2. Change the the rate of speech. From sounding like Mickey Mouse on helium to a sleepy Moomin just waking up.
  3. Alter the vocal quality. make the voice sensuous, make it raspy and make it whispery.
  4. Modify the location.
  5. Experiment changing your voice to a person you respect and admire or some helpful deity.

Now, once you have really had a good exploration and enjoyable play, find out what is going to benefit you the most. Again you have to be willing to experiment and change stuff around until you really like it. And remember, you can always put it back the way it was or change it to something else.

What benefits will I get by doing this?

Right now I invite you to commit to doing this now for 10 minutes and you will have done the whole exercise.

Of course you really do have to practice to feel the benefits. Make the time. The results are astounding.

It is quite likely that most people who read this won’t do the exercise. They will talk themselves out of it, wont be able to make the time, any number of excuses. it takes just 10 minutes the first time and will likely take much less to practice your new skills.

Before you commit to starting this, take a moment to note down the level of stress, anxiety, worry, calm, relaxation and optimism etc in your life. Rate them out of 10. After one week of practising changing the qualities of your own internal dialogue to simply quietening it right down revisit those marks out of ten.

Be one of the small percentage of people who will do more than just read the article.

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NLP and Metaphor – Problem Resolution

Harry Knox, of IntegrityNLP introduces the concept of Metaphor in relation to problem identification and then problem resolution in a content free way using metaphor. The intention being to stimulate change in a generative way by working at a different or meta level to the original problem.

NLP Demystified – Beliefs & Values 2

WARNING! This is extremely controversial!

This is currently one of the most popular internet videos available.

I post the link because – it is also an excellent demonstration of Beliefs and Values in action. It may be a fake. But it has currently been watched by over four and a half MILLION people.

Irrespective of its authenticity, lets assume this is just cinema. A projection of actors beliefs and values. An example is worth more than one thousand written words …

What is educational are the many Beliefs and Values that are conveyed in the conversation.


What may be an even more powerful example of beliefs in action is your own, you own responses to this audio. But DO note the end of the audio when the ‘prank’ all becomes clear!

This will lead nicely into the next NLP Demystified post ‘Model of The World’

Tennis NLP and your inner game – part 2

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Well Done Nadal! Indeed a truly an epic final.

Recently I have read W.Timothy Gallwey’s Inner Game of Tennis. It is an excellent book, published in 1974.

The ‘inventor’ of Calculus is often credited as Isaac Newton but there is of course the ongoing dispute that calculus was invented by Gottfried Leibniz.

Like many ‘inventions’ it is not entirely impossible that many people at around the same time had the same idea.

So what has all this got to do with NLP and Tennis? Good question.

In Gallwey’s Inner Game there are references made to ‘Self 1 and Self 2’. In NLPers as Conscious and Unconscious. And how to program it for success.

New Code’s ‘know nothing state’ seems to have an equivalent in ‘Playing out of your mind’

If you read the book, there are processes that is completely comparable to six step reframing, change personal history, time lines oh and NLP Modelling to name a few.

kind regards
nigel hetherington

Communicating Excellence
Excellence in NLP and Clinical Hypnotherapy

Learning and Emotion

A little while ago, a top bloke I know mentioned that training facilitation is more about leading people through a series of states; In short, excellent facilitation is about states. I couldn’t agree more with him even if I didn’t want too. He is absolutely right.

As a training facilitator, one of the core and prime skills ( in addition to knowing your stuff and walking your talk ) is to be able to create states in yourself and of course other people.

In his extremely well presented and excellent book ‘The LITTLE BOOK of BIG STUFF ABOUT the BRAIN‘ by Andrew Curran a particularly relevant paragraph is this

… some 30 or 40 years ago a very smart chap called Donald Hebb argued you learn things because your nerve cells join together in a way that makes them fire together. He said that ‘Nerve cells that fire together wire together’. What is also know is that this wiring together of nerve cells is predominantly under the control of your emotional system – the more emotion in a situation the more likely it is you will learn from it…

This can be taken to mean

boring, dull uncharismatic, unemotional presenters who simply can’t be bothered, their messages will likely not be remembered very well and soon forgot.

The obverse is if you are lively, shiney, emotional, provocative and love what you do, dynamic – your messages, learning points and applications are much more likely to be remembered and acted upon and made use of in much bigger contexts.

nigel hetherington

Communicating Excellence
Excellence in NLP ( Diplomacy 😉 ) and Clinical Hypnotherapy

Newcastle NLP Social Event and Divine Comedy

An NLP night out with a full helping of comedy – coor blimey guv where do I sign up ….

Dont start to laugh yet, Dont start to think about the possibilities of a great group evening out yet, Dont even block out the 18th or the 19th of June from you diarys and calendars – WHY NOT? – BECAUSE – you dont know what it is yet…

Mr Paul J. Richardson will be performing amongst others as part of the Divine Theatre Company’s forthcoming comedy evenings on the following dates at the following venues

Wed 18th June – Magnesia Bank, North Shields

Thurs 19th June – Bridge Hotel, Newcastle upon Tyne

Its a bargain at just £6.00

so be there at 7.30 for an 8.00 start ….


So if you want to go ahead and book some tickets now sent Paul an email and book some tickets for a guaranteed great night out!

nigel hetherington

Brain Gym in UK schools

I use many contralateral exercises in therapeutic practice and of course they get tremendous results.  Grinders 1980 ‘new code’ games are essentially brain gym games, they work BUT there seems to be no ‘scientific’ proof that they work or do not work.

An interesting and somewhat damming appraisal of Brain Gym from a BBC report

click here to watch a BBC news video on Brain Gym

the video article ends with “until the claims made by ‘brain gym’ can be verified it has no place in our schools.

Unlike phylosophy, religion and the scientifically tested forms of exercise like yoga … did you see all those people doing something together – fringe benefits 🙂

Operating Beliefs of NLP

On our Newcastle NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner courses we explore the enabling Operating beliefs of NLP.

click for – a free PDF download NLP Operating Beliefs

There is absolutely no requirement to believe these bold statements, just act as if they are true and notice what opportunities open up both to you and for you.

as someone particularly wise once said to me

who is doing the operating and who is doing the believing?

questioningly yours
nigel hetherington

Communicating Excellence
Excellence in Neuro Linguistic Programming and Clinical Hypnotherapy