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Beliefs Values And Health

The Structure of Anxiety and Delightful Futures , NLP , Clinical Hypnosis

What have Anxiety and a delightful future have in common? Well for most people they are both in the future and both have not happened yet.

Anxiety is generally about planning a future that is pretty much crappy and undesired.  Anxiety experts also tend not to have any conscious ending for the unpleasant events they imagine.  This causes some more uncertainty and will tend to promote the anxiety cycle again.  Structurally there is little difference if any between Delight and Anxiety. Clearly the content is evaluated in a kind of either great or terrible way.

NLP is well known for its process orientated approach over content or situational details.  This short video from an NLP Practitioner training in Newcastle upon Tyne illustrates two NLP Operational Presupositions really nicely.

1. People have all the resources they need.

2. Structure ( or process ) is more useful than content and is a higher logical level.

 

NLP Meta Programs – Explained

Our Newcastle upon Tyne and North East NLP Practitioner and NLP Master Practitioner training courses both explore Meta Programs in relation to enhanced communications, both at the linguistic and physical levels.

Meta Programs are one way people filter and sort and categorise information.  When we can recognise and detect peoples current Meta Program preferences it is possible to communicate more congruently at deeper and more connecting levels.

Here Harry Knox gives an immediately understandible introduction to the subject in this you tube video.  For the full 15 minute introduction simply subscribe to Communicating Excellence newsletter and access more NLP and Hypnosis resources.

 

Information, Chunking and Learning

My good friend and college Kim Bull of Adventurous Minds has uploaded a you-tube video of part of his ‘NLP for Sports excellence’ training about how we as humans process information.

Kim is an excellent NLP Trainer who incorporates fun and relevancy within all the learning and discovery methods he facilitates.

This video describes in very understandable ways the linguistic model concepts of Generalisation, Distortion and Deletion.

10 Hints & Tips for surviving a temporary recession – HT Seven

Shifting Perspectives 2008The ability to change perspectives is one of the single most powerful tools there is. And the great news is that each and every one of us has this innate gift. Unfortunately we don’t always choose to use it though as is clearly being demonstrated in Israel and Gaza at the moment.

Children ( and some adults still ) have a wonderful ability to radically shift perspectives from what can appear to be one reality to another.  This ability in children may be because they haven’t yet developed rigid belief structures that prevent change and essentially close down possibilities.

For a moment think about your own thoughts, values and beliefs about the current conflict in Israel and Gaza. Now, if you can, think about it from a Hamas ‘freedom’ fighters perspective, what would you have to believe and value in order to operate this way? Now think about it from say an Israeli soldiers perspective, what would you have to value and believe to be true to act this way? Now come back to being yourself.

OK, now, if you found these two other world views uncomfortable, tricky, wonderful or impossible this is likely because they conflict or disagree with your own beliefs and values.  This is OK, this is not an attempt to begin world piece it is an illustration of beliefs and values in action, at work; yours.

Beliefs if you believe in them are like a glue holding the fabric of your reality together, if you like, the warp and the weft that keep things in place. And for most of the time this works really well.

In a simplistic world view each set of perspectives including your own are perfectly right and valid from the perspective of the individual. You may not agree or condone what is happening from your own perspective and this is about your own beliefs and values.

Loosening and softening limiting beliefs – Gaining new perspectives

The ‘What Do You Want’ question will illuminate some goal or outcome. A great many people that I am work with want to ‘Stop Worrying about xxx’ or ‘Dont want to feel zzz’. This to say the least is a very very reasonable outcome.

In the post H&T Four, you were invited to explore the question ‘What Do You Want’? using the NLP Well Formed Outcome process.

You were also invited to state your goals in a certain way. To state them in terms of not what you don’t want but in terms of what you want. So that is your goals stated in the so called ‘positive’.

Irrespective of how you stated your goals here is a neat process that explores and loosens the underlying beliefs relevant to the goal.  This is a process that will generate different perspectives about your outcome / goal.

For each goal, I invite you to answer  the following questions in the order thy are presented. Of course you will do them in the order you want. My experience is the order does have significance so choose wisely.

pick and write down three goals you want to explore. For each goal answer all of the following questions. Please take the time to really consider all of your answers before moving on to the next question.

  1. What will happen if I do achieve this goal?
  2. What will happen if I don’t achieve this goal?
  3. What won’t happen if I do achieve this goal?
  4. What won’t happen if I don’t achieve this goal?

These four ‘Cartesian questions’ especially Q4 tend to open up our own perspectives and encourage views of different yet related possibilities and outcomes.

For all of your goals, well at least the ones you want to work with go ahead and use this reasonably rapid process to generate new perspectives and explore the validity and possible consequences.Success

The next hint and tip will require you to have used these Cartesian questions and the Well Formed Outcome process on your goals. It will also require that you have refined your list of goals down to only the ones you are really committed to achieving.

I suggest picking just three that are most important to you as having too many goals and doing nothing about them is a potential recipe for procrastination.

The next hint and tip will be about creating and maintaining the right motivation to help you work towards getting what you really want.

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NLP and Metaphor – Problem Resolution

Harry Knox, of IntegrityNLP introduces the concept of Metaphor in relation to problem identification and then problem resolution in a content free way using metaphor. The intention being to stimulate change in a generative way by working at a different or meta level to the original problem.

NLP Demystified – Reframing

Reframing literally means changing some ‘unuseful’ meaning into a more positive or more useful meaning. This can also be described as casting something in a more positive light.

A quick example of this is a positive ‘by-product’ of the somewhat crippling rising cost of petrol.

There has been good news for motorists using a stretch of the M25 as high petrol prices have cut traffic congestion, figures have shown.

You may not agree with this and you may find this attempted deflection of the real severity of the situation rather reminiscent of a politicians speach and that is OK.  This simply serves to site a good example that the reframe may not be accepted. Look at this video for full details of this rather lame reframe.

all the best and happy motoring …

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NLP Demyistified – Model of The World

Lets for a moment pretend there is ‘a one‘ reality. A gargantuan leap into the improbable, I know. But stay with me on this one.

So we have this ‘one reality’, we, being humans, have uniquely individual ways in which we perceive and sense reality. Biologically we all have eyes but we don’t see exactly the same things. We have limited range sensory apparatus. The human eye works within a specific frequency of light.

So as an anology ‘Model of the World’ is like beliefs and values but it is much more expansive. The word model suggests its not quite true, not quite reality.

We have ideas, thoughts, wants, needs, compulsions, attention spans and wishes that are not exactly the same as anyone else’s. All of these, a combination of our unique physical, neurological and our life experiences ‘colour’ both what, how and the meanings we make in order to perceive and act in our own unique reality.

This is unique to everyone, so that’s the ‘model of the world’.

Look at this video to catch glimpses of two unique models of the world in action. If you can, stay out of the content and look and listen out for ‘models of the world’.

NLP Demystified – Beliefs & Values 2

WARNING! This is extremely controversial!

This is currently one of the most popular internet videos available.

I post the link because – it is also an excellent demonstration of Beliefs and Values in action. It may be a fake. But it has currently been watched by over four and a half MILLION people.

Irrespective of its authenticity, lets assume this is just cinema. A projection of actors beliefs and values. An example is worth more than one thousand written words …

What is educational are the many Beliefs and Values that are conveyed in the conversation.

LISTEN TO THE AUDIO

What may be an even more powerful example of beliefs in action is your own, you own responses to this audio. But DO note the end of the audio when the ‘prank’ all becomes clear!

This will lead nicely into the next NLP Demystified post ‘Model of The World’

NLP Demystified – Beliefs & Values

The purpose of this topic is to be an ongoing series of posts that attempts to demystify some of the esoteric and obscure terminology in NLP. It may also serve as a way for NLP’ ers to talk to other humans about the intrinsic concepts of NLP so other non- NLP’ ers may understand more easily.

Beliefs and Values

What follows is a short film clip. In 1968 Jane Elliot undertook a brilliant experiential exercise with her class room students.

What is particularly useful in our context here of demystification, is the different levels, interactions and formation ( as well as challenges ) to beliefs and values.

Elliot undertook this approach because she realised it was imperative to “not just talk about” but to “… deal with in a concrete way … ” The issue she was addressing. This is an excellent example of Elliots beliefs and values in action.

Also look out for the children’s beliefs and values in action, watch ( calibrate ) their responses.

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So one definition of Belief is ‘something that is currently deemed true’, through past cultural, parental, teachings and personal experience conditioning resulting in expectations yet often, though not always lacking substantive evidence.

eg Its unlucky to walk under ladders, All Geordies wear flat caps and have a Whippet.

One definitions of Value is ‘something important’ on a physical ( experiential ) or ideological / moral ( mental ) basis. Values are contextual and like beliefs may be the results of past cultural, parental, teachings and personal experience conditioning

eg Honesty is good, Rock and Roll is Evil

But do think what you want it is after all up to you [ spot the values and beliefs? ]

nigel