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Conversational Postulate in Hypnosis

At this months NLP & Hypnosis Practice Group, The Trance Cafe the topic of exploration was the Milton Model. Specifically the use and understanding of the Conversational Postulate.

First we inquired into the meanings of the terms. Postulate means a assumption of some reality. But a Conversational Postulate is basically a question form where irrespective of the verbal answer will tend to invoke some kind of action in reality; be this a physical one and/or operating withing cognitive capacity.

Conversational Postulate Hypnosis Newcastle

The verbal answer is most commonly a YES/NO or less commonly I DON’T KNOW or MAYBE. The importance is what happens in actuality, an action or thought that is the subtle or indirect response that is usually inferred by the recipient of the Conversational Postulate question.

For instance:

  • Could you tell me the way to the station?
  • Won’t you sit down?
  • Might it be a good idea to talk about it?
  • Can I ask you to stand up please?
  • Will you show me that again?
  • Is there any more toilet paper?
  • Should you wait before ordering that book?

The basic form will take a MODAL OPERATOR such as Could, Can, Will, Might followed by a personal or group referential index such as YOU or YOUSE’ALL and then a request ( question ) which can be acted upon either physically or psychologically.

So a basic set up for an induction into trance could be:

Could you sit down please? … And can you take two or three deep breaths? … And might you relax your shoulders a little more? … And will you close your eyes momentarily or in just a little while?

So we now have the structure of :

[ C.P. ] [ Suggestion ]

eg [ Could you ] [ Sit Down ]

Following on from this we can use what I call a Conversational Softener or just a Softener that is spoken before the Conversation Postulate [ C.P. ]. For instance:

I wonder … Could you Sit Down? or OK Robert, Could you Sit Down?

Where a Softener is of the form : I wonder, OK Robert,  I’m wondering, Now etc.

If you are ready … Could you sit down please? … And Robert … can you take two or three deep breaths? … And now … might you relax your shoulders a little more? … And I’m wondering will you close your eyes momentarily or in just a little while?

[ Softener ] [ C.P. ] [ Suggestion ]

One of the most useful ( and indeed a social nicety ) words is please. There is one video I saw online of Erickson working with a client who would not at first close their eyes. Erickson used the work ‘please’ several times to affect this. Usually clients are not resistful or not wanting to co-operate so the use of ‘please’ has several uses.

The word ‘please’ in this developing structure can be used in a variety of places. It was found during the practice group that excessive use of ‘please’ felt somewhat unnatural. I leave you to explore this in your own ways. ‘Please’ will fit in any one ( or more ) of the structure sequence marker shown after the ‘Please’ modified ‘induction’ below.

If you are ready … Please could you sit down ? … And Robert … can you Please take two or three deep breaths? … And now … might you relax your shoulders a little more Please? … And I’m wondering will you Please close your eyes momentarily or in just a little while?

[ Softener ] [ -Please- ] [ C.P. ] [ -Please- ] [ Suggestion ] [ -Please- ]

You may have noticed that the last structure phrase in this basic induction is a double bind. The Conversation Postulate may be actualised immediately, or momentarily or in a little while as per the verbal question. So extending the ‘Suggestion’ part of the mini-structure, yes that can be a double ( or single bind ) bind.

[ Softener ] [ C.P. ] [ Please ] [ Suggestion ( Bind Form) ]

Now, as with all structures ( or process ) I wonder, can you thoroughly learn this with plenty of effortful practice or enhanced repetition and then please consciously forget them?

Negation and Negative Effect Postulates

I will leave this post with a little taster of what followed on from this exploration at the practice group; as in putting into a alternative mode of practice within the presented structure.

Assuming your practice partner is sitting down and their name is Mary.

Ok Mary … I see that you are not standing up … Please … I don’t know … can’t you stand up? … and go deeper into trance?

Or assuming Mary has her eyes open.

Mary … I notice your eyes are open … I don’t know … can you not close your eyes? … while you develop more of an altered state?

Clueless about English language and scraping grade ‘c’ made it more easy to become a hypnotic language expert.

Learning English language, spelling and something called ‘grammar’ at school never actually made much sense to me. I was hopeless at spelling and didn’t care that I was hopeless at spelling. I never saw the point of getting all excited or angry ( as some of my teachers did ) that my spelling wasn’t so good.

I really didn’t know what nouns, adjective or verbs were until those terms were used on a training course I was attending in 2002. So I asked for clarification of those terms. I saw some people stare in surprise that a 30 year old was asking about basic English.

Even if you don’t know the what terms like verb, pronoun or cleft sentence actually are you are using them every day in normal conversations or you are reading about them even now.

The secret is inside the structure of how to talk hypnotically. What the real secret really is you already, as a speaker of English, know how to do this.

There are a set of common every day words that form the ‘glue’ in the same way that glial cells form the glue that makes the neurons in our brains work the way they do functionally. Using these cards you will very rapidly and experientially learn how to construct, use and maximise you hypnotic language skills.

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One aspect of the 18 NLP Course in Newcastle is the understanding and application of Meta Programs. Meta Programs are the behavioural and thought patterns that both enslave and deliver. They are called meta programs because until they are identified and utilised or changed, they are major parts of the unconscious aspects of our personality that dominate who we are and how we respond.

A major player in the psycho-lingustics field ( Lutz ) is quoted as saying “its not what you say it’s what is heard”

Knowing and utilising Meta Programs is a surprisingly simple linguistic set of skills to both learn, understand and use. You have seen a simple demonstration in the context of a sandwich. An a very exceptional sandwich at that!

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Trauma Resolution Newcastle Workshop Training Using Eye Movement Integration Plus

A Trauma Resolution Workshop by consultant Newcastle hypnotherapist Nigel Hetherington for Therapists, Counsellors,  Hypnotherapists, Social Workers, Doctors, Nurses, Police and all People Helpers working with client trauma. Using Eye Movement Integration and Generative Change Techniques. A Brief Therapy and Solution Focused approach to working with Trauma. This workshop run by Nigel Hetherington takes place in Newcastle upon Tyne, October 13-14 and is excellent value at only £80.

I, myself, cannot recommend this training highly enough. I found that it took my confidence and competence of using EMI to a totally new level and not just for trauma. The last workshop in London was attended by many of my colleagues trained at the Quest Institute, and the positive feedback on our forum afterwards was quite amazing!

Cathy Simmons – Cognitive Hypnotherapist

NLP Eye Movement Integration, developed by Steve and Connirae Andreas is one of the most effective and content free way of helping your clients dissolve the terrible and unwanted emotions related to trauma.

Eye Movement Integration is a very brief and content free process for resolving psychological traumas such as PTSD, intrusive memories, shame, guilt and other kinds of undesirable emotional and identity imprints.

This course offers so much even if, as I had, you’ve already learnt and used basic EMI techniques. It is exceptionally well presented and gives a thorough grounding in the theory and practice of EMI, including simple explanations of how and why it works. But in combining EMI and Time Line techniques it offers a new and extraordinarily effective procedure for the resolution of many types of symptom that can be linked to traumatic experience.

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EMI is really quite easy to learn and use.  As a counsellor, therapist or anyone who is working with client trauma, you want proven and recognised ways to help your clients out of the black emotional cloud of pain and suffering as rapidly and as ecologically as possible.  Your clients are typically coming to see you because they are experiencing some form of emotional pain. All of the emotional states discussed above can be successfully treated and neutralised with Eye Movement Integration.

I found the material and the presentation excellent, what I have seen of the Generative Change process fills some big gaps in my conventional NLP training and the EMI allow the body mind to connect and integrate the release of emotional issues in a very clear and clean way!

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NLP Meta Programs – A Spatial + Complement Approach

Recorded at Communicating Excellence NLP Practitioner Training Newcastle.

NLP meta programs explored spatially. The explorer has some goal or outcome in mind and their goal is explored within the context of meta programs. Notice the very important use of exploring the complement of the desired state/spatial position.

Hypnosis Language Pivot Words – Nigel Hetherington

One of the hypnotic language patterns I
Have a particular fondness for are called
Pivot words or equally pattern interrupts.

Pattern interrupts with the purpose of leading
Someone, anyone, yourself to somewhere more
Useful to create new neural networks, possibly
By confusion or derailing a train of Thought you
Did and when you looked you hadn’t.

Confused … Yet … I hope So you can begin
To learn a pattern in an other than conscious
Way to go, its easy is it not?

But before I share a story I want to share
The patterns of the Words are a natural
Part of language and how we express A
Feeling can change at the drop of a hat
Or the drop of An expected sentence structure
Is known to you at an unconscious level.

Right now you ARE learning by example
So don’t try to figure it out just yet!

A spoken or written sentence during and
As you hear it, is being processed in what
You tacitly know … To make sense … Is to
Follow a semi predictable pattern that
You map onto … Experience … is what really
Makes the difference. Don’t trust me yet!

Walking down a road or a pathway you may
See a flower or A tree grows from a seed and
Evolves all of it’s Life is a collection of experiences
That can form … Our Impressions … are experiences that
Are imbibed by the nervous system and to
A large part create our know subjective reality.

OK, enough already … 🙂

Here’s the pattern …

[ Sentence … ] ending in a (a)NOUN(s) / OBJECT …


People often sit down at TABLES.

… (a)NOUN(s) beginning a [ sentence ]

TABLES are places where meals are served.

PIVOT the sentence ‘MEANING’ on the (a)NOUN(s)
This IS LIKE changing tracks half way through and
The expectation ( unconscious ) is lead to somewhere
Else other than expected … this creates a SPACE

Like this … PIVOT

People often sit down at … TABLES … are places where meals are served.

Think about it … After you have read the sentence
Out aloud to Yourself you can now understand
Something in … A different way … to learn is
All about experiencing something novel, new
Weird, unexpected. Remember the brain LIKES
Unexpected, weird, different and is likely to
Remember it all the more this way.

You can then use this SPACE to offer very helpful
And well meaning suggestions again and again …

So Why Do Wasps Eat Wood?

You have already learned this pattern at
More than one level. Trust me on this one!

Use it and make it part of how you
Communicate with intention to Yourself,
Anyone, Someone.

The story, as you remember … I will save
For another … Time …to go practice this
Powerful pattern of … Hypnotic Language
Patterns … can be learned more better by
Writing them down, saying them out loud
And On The Inside … exploring ways you
Can incorporate these in every day …

Conversational Hypnosis Skills … You
Are developing … … …

NLP Newcastle Training : Workshops and Personal Development

It is almost February and straight and to the point I have
Some training courses from me and some from my associates
That I am inviting you to consider as part of your personal
And Professional ongoing development and evolution.
There are a great deal of excellent courses, practice groups
And workshops here in the North East and London.

NLP Practitioner Training – March – April 2012 :12 Days – £595
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The SoulSpace Place – Monthly Practice Group
This is the creation of One of my best friends and one of
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Exploring spirituality and creating space to connect with
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We are meeting every third Tuesday of the month.
From 6.30-8.30. £10

Past Life Regression Hypnosis – March 17-18 : £70
A two day experience of PLR with myself and my good
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Venue: Jesmond Dene Conference Center.

Oriental Massage with Chi-Kung Day – March 3rd : £40
This is facilitated a little by me ( language ) and mostly by
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Where you will both practice and get massaged ALL
Leave with skills you can immediately apply and feeling
Very very relaxed. This massage day is like chicken soup
For the soul.
Venue : Newcastle, Heaton.

Humour In Therapy & Coaching : April 21-22 – £199
My good friend and colleague Phil Jeremiah is back in Newcastle
To facilitate his most excellent 2 day workshop in the strategic use
Of Humour In Therapy and Coaching. This is NOT for everyone.
All participants receive a complete DVD of this workshop worth £99.
Venue : Jesmond Dene Conference Centre, Newcastle.

Advanced Therapist Training – Feb – June : 10 Days – £595
This extremely practical and experiential training requires you already have an
NLP Master Practitioner, Hypnotherapy certificate or you are already working as a Change Professional. and will build on your skills.
Currently just 2 places available.
Venue : Jesmond Dene Conference Centre, Newcastle.

Courses, Workshops & Training of Interest – Associates

NLP Practitioner Training London Canary Wharf 4th-10Feb : £600
Training in the prestigious Hilton Hotel in Canary
Wharf. With Paul Cosens, Arthur Partridge and me,
Nigel Hetherington. Exceptional value!

Solution Focused Practice – John Wheeler
5 days training @ £500. From April – December
NCFE approved training.

UNIT1: The historical origins of Solution Focused Practice

UNIT2: The assumptions within Solution Focused Practice

UNIT3: Working with what works

UNIT4: Focusing on the future

UNIT5: Using Solution Focused Tools to promote self-efficacy

Change Camp – Andy Hunt : March 24th : £10
A one day, many presenter workshop where some
Of the top and rising stars of psychological change.
A great day out and opportunity to meet like minds and
Explore lots of different perspectives of change from
The world of Newbies and professional change artists.

BTNE Study Day – John Wheeler : May 4th : £10
An exceptional day that has been running for over
A decade. A gathering of exceptional material delivered
In workshops throughout the day. I am presenting
“Your Very Sexy Brain and Neurology To Frame Positive
Client Centred Change”

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Conscious Unconscious in Hypnotherapy – Nigel Hetherington

When I am working as the Newcastle Hypnotherapist or in delivering NLP and Hypnotherapy training I often use the terms conscious and unconscious. Neither of these terms refers to any tangible objects; they are both after all just concepts. How these terms are framed or explained will tend to induce very different meanings and so, very different potential effects.

Conscious can simply mean that which we are aware of in any given moment or experience. Unconscious can mean all and everything that that we are not currently aware of and is currently unknown or permanently transcendent of perception; yet is a veritable store house of resources and knowledge with a universal ability to include, differentiate and expand.

World famous Hypnotherapist Milton Erickson is said to have introduced the terms conscious and unconscious ( mind ) into the very general language of the hypnotherapist. The terms unconscious and conscious were made popular in the last century first by Freud then Freud’s student Carl Jung. All three of these people had very different meanings and understandings of their respective terminology. These terms today refer to both the psychological and physiological and to a very great extent integrate the old idea of a differentiated mind and body.

From a psychological perspective the conscious and unconscious may be explained as declarative and non-declarative memory. Declarative memory is our explicit or known memory that we have the abilities to access. This kind of memory is made up of our experiences and our factual / conceptual memory. Process or non-declarative memory is our unconscious ‘how to’ do, routines like motor skills for walking, eating or moving our hands to manipulate an object. This kind of ‘unconscious memory’ may also explain how the excessively drunken socialite somehow manages to get home well after they lose the power to talk coherently and often even walk. Some would liken this to the part of the brain that we all share with the common Newcastle homing pigeon.

In hypnotherapy or any change process, we can decide what we want to change consciously, for example some problem behaviour like over eating, and go into utilise unconscious resources, experience and process to attend to the how without knowing specifically how. So this is making use of the skills, coping mechanisms, resources and learned behaviours available to an individual at an other than conscious level to accomplish some movement towards change. This may be a point of consternations for some because if the ‘how’ is unconscious then how can it be utilised?

Tens of thousands of years ago in the Bronze age and later in the Iron age, the skilled craftsmen who created weapons, tools and artefacts from Bronze and Iron did not understand consciously the metallurgical properties of the material they moulded, hardened and crafter yet they did make and create. Similarly it is not necessary to know how the body heals or how we learn to affect and augment these natural processes. Similarly consciously you can choose to pick up an apple, it is your unconscious sensory-motor system that co-ordinates the movement. In hypnosis arm levitation is an unconscious process just the same as at home or the cinema your arm might stop mid-task as the screen and story temporarily capture all your attention. It is an honest unconscious response when your sense of humour activates and you laugh out loud.

A neuro-physiological perspective of the term unconscious can refer to the ‘how’ all of the biological, neurological and electrochemical processes of the body operate. The processes of neuronal firing, digesting food, healing an ailment or beating our heart are processes that are unconscious. Using both attention and intention certain unconscious processes can be influenced. For example breathing is largely an unconscious response yet we can breathe in consciously too.

Our life is an accumulation of experience both our own and our vicarious collections. We can’t always know what we are learning never mind how we are learning in any given experience. It is likely that over time, looking back we will gain deeper and broader understandings of our experiences, changing and expanding the meanings and uncovering more of our knowledge as conscious access or even personal revelations based on our ongoing unconscious processes.

What I can consider more important than too specific definitions is the functional ways in which these terms may be employed. These terms can be used to invite attentional splits, to offer ways to focus attentions and so open and develop new mental and neurological maps. To offer certain hope and possibilities of self directed change. To frame workable and intelligible experiences that can establish new experiences and promote well-being.

Finally as a commencement remark, there really is no requirement to get caught up in some tight, overly intellectualised debate of the terminology and what it means and simply experiencing the utility of the terms and … can be enough to notice your clients making up their own mind and bodily experiences as you can too. And to encourage the invitation of the creation of distinctions and associations and the … After all it can be and it is useful to say ‘you have a conscious mind and an unconscious mind, you have conscious body process and unconscious body process … in psychological understanding the mind … outside the body the body … outside the mind in physiological understanding … ’.

NLP Anchoring – Live & Demonstrated

NLP Anchoring – Recorded LIVE at NLP Practitioner Training in Newcastle.

This is a very short exert from ‘NLP LIVE – Anchoring Demonstration‘ : A one hour instructional DVD of the NLP Anchoring Process. Enjoy the Laughter, Share the Resource States, Watch this now, Experience the Energy and Laugh Out Loud!!



NLP LIVE – Anchoring Demonstration : A one hour instructional DVD of the Anchoring Process.

Full DVD includes the 123 of Anchoring.

  1. Preframing and Set Up.
  2. Anchoring Demonstration.
  3. Testing and Questions.

Recorded Live at NLP Practitioner Training.

This DVD is around one hour in length and captures the essence and techniques of NLP Anchoring. This includes eliciting states, making use and utilising ‘natural’ states, physical and aural anchors, stories and theory and a complete demonstration of the entire NLP Anchoring Process.

NLP LIVE – Anchoring Demonstration
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NLP Collapsing Anchors Physically Newcastle NLP Practitioner and Clinical Hypnotherapy Training

One of the methodologies in NLP is moving from problem states or feelings into ones of freedom and ease.

Some people will regard this process as chaining anchors others may regard this as collapsing anchors. It can be regarded as both. More importantly it is really all about shunting anchors or states. That is to go from one state to another. This is accomplished by shifting physiology and some Thought Provoking Dialogue.

This is one way to make yourself feel better and let go of the past … while preserving as much as possible of the learnings … so you ideally don’t get into the same kind of mire again. It is also a way through repetition to train your body to shift at the first signs ( often unconscious ) of the problem state to a resource state.