Category Archives: Reframing

Changing Problematic Behaviours using Hypnotherapy Parts Sublimation

We all from time to time experience a problematic behaviour. This typically means a certain set of ‘responses’ within a specific context. For example during public speaking, one may be engaged in an unhelpful conversation with oneself.

A new process for therapists and hypnotherapists to sublimate aspects ( seemingly competing psychological parts ), to working together to inspire and create more.

This is about psychological and behavioural parts sublimation. Where the parts together are greater than each other. Where individual strengths are valued and fully utilised within a greater frame.

NLP and Hypnotherapy Training Course Newcastle upon Tyne

Ideally in this example, of public speaking, it may be better to not be having that inner conversation and instead having your attention directed outwards with no internal chatter.

This kind of ‘problem’ can take the form of I want to do X but instead do Y. Where X is the desired behaviour and Y is contextually problematic.

  1. Establish the ‘I want to do X but do Y instead’ problematic behaviour.
  2. In chair 1, induce trance and develop honest unconscious signal.
  3. Deepen trance and gain unconscious agreement that the client will stay in trance while and as they move to another chair.
  4. Move to the other chair, chair 2.
  5. Gain unconscious agreement for a conscious amnesia for the problematic behaviour Y.
  6. With freedom, have the client practice the new behaviour many times, and ask for unconscious confirmation when this has been done in a way that meets values, ecology and wellbeing.
  7. Future pace this new behaviour X, so that after the 3rd, or 5th or 10th time this has happened in a good way, the client will recover the amnesia for the old problematic behaviour Y. Gain unconscious agreement for this.
  8. Invite the unconscious to create any useful conscious amnesia for this recovery until appropriate.
  9. Gain unconscious agreement for client to stay in trance while and as they move back to chair 1.
  10. Move back to chair 1.
  11. Invite the client to return to normal waking state. Let your client do this at their own pace. Once they are ‘back’ immediately begin talking about anything else as a conscious distraction on the work you have just completed.

I have created this process researching Milton Erickson’ works on amnesia, ideas from Steven Gilligan and the New Code NLP explicit unconscious ‘yes’ at each process step from 2-11.

The idea is very much not about parts integration, as in adding up to make a merged whole. It’s parts sublimation. Sublimation to me means ‘parts’ without boundaries. Where the parts are valued individually and the sublimation is more than the parts as in 1+1 makes three or more.

Feel very free to use, adapt and tinker in any ways you wish.

NLP Meta Programs – A Spatial + Complement Approach

Recorded at Communicating Excellence NLP Practitioner Training Newcastle.

NLP meta programs explored spatially. The explorer has some goal or outcome in mind and their goal is explored within the context of meta programs. Notice the very important use of exploring the complement of the desired state/spatial position.

Conscious Unconscious in Hypnotherapy – Nigel Hetherington

When I am working as the Newcastle Hypnotherapist or in delivering NLP and Hypnotherapy training I often use the terms conscious and unconscious. Neither of these terms refers to any tangible objects; they are both after all just concepts. How these terms are framed or explained will tend to induce very different meanings and so, very different potential effects.

Conscious can simply mean that which we are aware of in any given moment or experience. Unconscious can mean all and everything that that we are not currently aware of and is currently unknown or permanently transcendent of perception; yet is a veritable store house of resources and knowledge with a universal ability to include, differentiate and expand.

World famous Hypnotherapist Milton Erickson is said to have introduced the terms conscious and unconscious ( mind ) into the very general language of the hypnotherapist. The terms unconscious and conscious were made popular in the last century first by Freud then Freud’s student Carl Jung. All three of these people had very different meanings and understandings of their respective terminology. These terms today refer to both the psychological and physiological and to a very great extent integrate the old idea of a differentiated mind and body.

From a psychological perspective the conscious and unconscious may be explained as declarative and non-declarative memory. Declarative memory is our explicit or known memory that we have the abilities to access. This kind of memory is made up of our experiences and our factual / conceptual memory. Process or non-declarative memory is our unconscious ‘how to’ do, routines like motor skills for walking, eating or moving our hands to manipulate an object. This kind of ‘unconscious memory’ may also explain how the excessively drunken socialite somehow manages to get home well after they lose the power to talk coherently and often even walk. Some would liken this to the part of the brain that we all share with the common Newcastle homing pigeon.

In hypnotherapy or any change process, we can decide what we want to change consciously, for example some problem behaviour like over eating, and go into utilise unconscious resources, experience and process to attend to the how without knowing specifically how. So this is making use of the skills, coping mechanisms, resources and learned behaviours available to an individual at an other than conscious level to accomplish some movement towards change. This may be a point of consternations for some because if the ‘how’ is unconscious then how can it be utilised?

Tens of thousands of years ago in the Bronze age and later in the Iron age, the skilled craftsmen who created weapons, tools and artefacts from Bronze and Iron did not understand consciously the metallurgical properties of the material they moulded, hardened and crafter yet they did make and create. Similarly it is not necessary to know how the body heals or how we learn to affect and augment these natural processes. Similarly consciously you can choose to pick up an apple, it is your unconscious sensory-motor system that co-ordinates the movement. In hypnosis arm levitation is an unconscious process just the same as at home or the cinema your arm might stop mid-task as the screen and story temporarily capture all your attention. It is an honest unconscious response when your sense of humour activates and you laugh out loud.

A neuro-physiological perspective of the term unconscious can refer to the ‘how’ all of the biological, neurological and electrochemical processes of the body operate. The processes of neuronal firing, digesting food, healing an ailment or beating our heart are processes that are unconscious. Using both attention and intention certain unconscious processes can be influenced. For example breathing is largely an unconscious response yet we can breathe in consciously too.

Our life is an accumulation of experience both our own and our vicarious collections. We can’t always know what we are learning never mind how we are learning in any given experience. It is likely that over time, looking back we will gain deeper and broader understandings of our experiences, changing and expanding the meanings and uncovering more of our knowledge as conscious access or even personal revelations based on our ongoing unconscious processes.

What I can consider more important than too specific definitions is the functional ways in which these terms may be employed. These terms can be used to invite attentional splits, to offer ways to focus attentions and so open and develop new mental and neurological maps. To offer certain hope and possibilities of self directed change. To frame workable and intelligible experiences that can establish new experiences and promote well-being.

Finally as a commencement remark, there really is no requirement to get caught up in some tight, overly intellectualised debate of the terminology and what it means and simply experiencing the utility of the terms and … can be enough to notice your clients making up their own mind and bodily experiences as you can too. And to encourage the invitation of the creation of distinctions and associations and the … After all it can be and it is useful to say ‘you have a conscious mind and an unconscious mind, you have conscious body process and unconscious body process … in psychological understanding the mind … outside the body the body … outside the mind in physiological understanding … ’.

North East NLP Practice Group : Improvisation In Therapy & Coaching : Nigel Hetherington & Ruth Hindmarsh

This month’s offering at the Newcastle & North East NLP & Hypnotherapy Practice Group is Improvisation Skills in Therapy & Coaching … It’s for those of us who will go the extra extra mile to engender generative change.

20th April : Powerful and Exceptionally Meaningful Therapist Skills … Come … Here … And Co-Create …

When we are working in the role of a change consultant, therapist, facilitator or coach we do have an outcome in mind that is to facilitate a real, honest and empowering environment of exploration for our clients. How can we tune into being this creative?

Way too many change consultants can’t get out of their own way, in terms of making a real step or going out of their own comfort zone to enable their clients to do the same. What can we do to get to grips with getting out of our own way and facilitate real change experience?

There is a real need and requirement to be able to create a context for generative change which is enabling and at the same time, truly an honest and very creative place. When we hold a perspective of being seriously creative, we can see a clear path to genuinely enabling changes …

Performing arts and drama facilitation expert, Ruth Hindmarsh will facilitate a fun and safe space to really be the change consultant you know are, with fun and real purpose.

Within a sequence of exercises, Ruth and myself will integrate play, fun and creativity into tools and process’s you can easily merge into your professional practice and your life to make your sessions and interactions much more creative as well as bringing a smile and sense of something more deeply connecting into our work, play time and life as a whole.

Very much for those of us who are serious about change …

Facilitators : Ruth Hindmarsh & Nigel Hetherington

Entry Level : Open To All

Places are limited to 15 so book in advance to guarantee your place

Come join in and explore in a warm, comfortable purpose built training environment. The Newcastle Hypnotherapy Practice Group, The Trance Cafe meets at St Oswalds, Regent Centre, Gosforth. Third Wednesday of the month.

tea / coffee & biscuits included
7-9pm for only £10.00 book online now!


Humour In Therapy & Coaching : April 9-10 : £99

A two day workshop in using Humour in Change Work : April 9-10 : £99.0 : Newcastle upon Tyne with Phil Jeremiah.

Phill Jeremiah’s work using humour in therapy is a seriously humorous, often irrelevant and completely client centred way of working. This approach helps even the most stuck clients make beneficial changes. A ‘Bubble’ session has the gentle power to help shift clients from problem states to resource states and create lasting and powerful change. In the ‘Bubble of Possibility’ anything and everything is possible … With 20 years plus experience in using a humour based approach, maybe you are ready to come on this exciting journey into the Bubble Of Possibility … So … What is the Bubble Of Possibility?

Phil provides training, motivational speaking and support to organisations in the use of humour. Laughter in the workplace is proven to reduce symptoms of stress and can promote good team working in a fun way with groups or individuals. This two day workshop offers us the opportunity to experiment with, understand why and how, and develop confidence in using humour in coaching or therapy.

It’s a must for your development and an even greater must for right now – with our economic and social structures all in turmoil, we could all do with a little humour to help us frame it in ways that are useful to and for us and to and for our clients.

Paula McCormack – UK Social Leaders Coach

 

Humour can help to break old patterns and establish new ones

 

This workshop is April 9-10 : There are only ten places :
Your investment for two days training in fully utilising
Humour in Change Work is a very reasonable £99.00

 

 

What is the Bubble Of Possibility?

The ‘Bubble’ is a safe space created in advance of any therapeutic or coaching work. Humour Worx change consultants, explain what can happen in this space, a space where the agent of change will and can do anything and everything to assist their client in making an honest and lasting change, from a problem space to something much more resourceful.

All participants will receive

  • A robust structure to utilise humour in change work
  • Personal change work with the group via exercises
  • The opportunity to do a 1:1 session with Phil
  • New and different perspectives and methodologies to use humour in your own work and practices

So many research papers and books tell us of the positive effects of laughter. Apparently 20 minutes of laughter is equivalent to 20 minutes of physical activity, likened to an inner form of jogging. It may well act as a buffer against day to day stressful perceptions. However, laughter is not easy to come by in our mixed up fear driven world. Consequently Humour Worx sets out to challenge our sometimes negative mind-sets and self-limiting beliefs.

I thoroughly enjoyed Phil’s workshop. Apart from the actual content, which was fascinating, his slick delivery meant that the weekend flew by. He is a superb and extremely humorous presenter, who could give many comedians a run for their money!

He brought the topic to life through a wide range of actual examples and life experience.

Humour Worx is a brilliant tool which complements other approaches. I have used it regularly since to great effect.

Carol Barwick – Carol Barwick Associates Ltd.

 

Research shows that laughter can help to boost the immune system

 

This workshop is all about therapeutic uses of humour and a Humour Worx approach to real change. An absolute must for therapists, coaches, trainers and all people helpers! Phil Jeremiah was one of Frank Farrelly’s ( Provocative Therapy ) earliest and brightest students.

When I first did the ‘Humour Worx’ weekend course with Phil Jeremiah, I was not sure of what to expect. What I found was a very fun way of resolving problems, that was both rapid and very effective. The processes used are very well structured as is the teaching methodology, which involves clear explanations along with actual practice of the processes involved. All in all an excellent piece of therapeutic technology.

Huw Dampney – Artist, Senior Martial Arts Instructor

 

April 9-10 2011 : Humour In Therapy & Coaching : £99
There are ONLY 10 places for this event. Make sure you get yours! Act Now and Book Your Place.

 

 

“Creativity and humour are closely linked

 

Phil has been providing training in the UK and Europe for over 20 years to a wide range of professionals and organisations and has worked in the field of personal development for even longer. He was a qualified Senior Mental Health Social Worker, approved under the Mental Health Act 1983. Phil has extensive training and a wealth of experience in the fields of adult psychiatry, psychotherapy, counselling, hypnosis, brief therapy, NLP, EFT, EMDR, Life coaching and clinical risk assessment in mental health.

Spirituality in Coaching and Therapy

The more you lose yourself in something bigger than yourself, the more energy you will have.

Norman Vincent Peale

Spirituality In Coaching and Therapy – Newcastle NLP and Hypnosis Cafe Monday 7th February 7-9pm : Gosforth Library Newcastle NE3 3HD : £10 Including Biscuits. Book online below.

When we come direct from heart space we create an energetic connection that surpasses the concept of empathy or our multi-sensory capacity. In doing so we create the neutral void that two souls can share to explore, discover, test, challenge and shift. For us, this is our recipe for lasting and generative change.

So in this café Paula and Nigel will facilitate your unpacking of the deeper and more connecting ways in which yours and our therapeutic alliances work. How they are formed, how they grow and the effect and impact they have on our and the world.

We will open and share our thoughts and processes of how to develop co-created alliances by exploring the concepts of projections and reflections prior to, during and after a dynamic interaction. We will also consider projection and reflection in terms of attracting clients into your life for mutual healing and purposeful learnings.

Every person we meet has something to teach us, and every person has something to say that only they can say. We both believe we attract the clients that will help and be beneficial to our ongoing development. This may also include ‘healing’ your past. viz a vie we meet together to co-create something that is more than mutually beneficial …

From this place we’ll look at working from heart space that dynamically co-creates a change process as being fundamental in effective change and evolution work. We will show you how this offers a place that goes way beyond our understanding of rapport. Indeed it transcends the thoughts that if we shared some common value, belief, outcomes, goals and even purpose we can go anywhere in the relationship.

Newcastle NLP and Hypnosis Cafe

Monday 7th February 7-9pm :

Gosforth Library Newcastle NE3 3HD : £10 Including Biscuits.

Book online now.





The Need For Closure – Part One

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if you have ever broke up with a real love, if you have lost a close friend or family member or if you have ever experienced a deep trauma … you may well have come across the term “The Need For Closure” and likely you will have felt the need for the ‘experience’ in question to come to some kind of satisfactory end. Or an end that you can make a satisfactory meaning of …

When I say ‘come to an end’ I am talking specifically about the feelings of hurt, guilt, pain or any unresolved issues and any of the other recursive negative emotions or thoughts that have been running around your brain as a result of the ongoing, replaying experience you want to end. And … some kind of cognitive and satisfactory understanding about the event. Most of all to CHANGE HOW what you FEEL!

‘The Need For Closure’ in terms of an event can then be thought to mean three things:

  1. The thoughts and feeling relative to the event, generally repetitive and unwanted, are by way of some new experience brought to an end.
  2. A new and conclusive understanding of the event and your ‘why did it happen‘ questions answered.
  3. To be able to get on and to move forward in life. To STOP the unwanted though process and MOVE ON …

The term ‘need for closure‘ became popular in the 1990’s due to media exposure and the terminology refers to an individuals need to have a satisfactory conclusion albeit a cognitive and emotional ending to some traumatic event in their life.

Individuals that score hight on the Need For Closure Scale ( Kruglanski, Webster, Clem ) are said to require rules and structure in their life and are generally intolerant to ambiguity and uncertain situations. People who have very little Need For Closure are generally more creative, optimistic and thrive on uncertainty and ambiguity. These also happen to be the characteristics of natural leaders.

If the Need For Closure is related back into a therapeutic setting as in recovering from some traumatic event then it is reasonable to assume those people with flexible beliefs and attitudes will naturally recover quicker and with less effort.

Yet this really is just another term for reframing. The art and science of CHANGING THE MEANING of what you think has or has not happened to you.

The next parts of this article will explore possible solutions and ways to satisfactorily close such an issue emotionally, take the learnings and MOVE ON.

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Coaching and NLP using Neurological Levels

One of the tools I use with performance Coaching in Newcastle upon Tyne is Dilts’ Neurological Levels Model.  The NLP Neurological Levels is an excellent way to compartmentalise and partition an experience or equally an outcome or a problem. Such that any ‘situation’ can be explored in terms of Environment, Behaviour, Capabilities, Values, Beliefs and Identity.

The purpose of partitioning, one of Erickson’s hypnosis strategies, is to explore an outcome or equally a problem with the intention of discovering points of maximum intervention, this is what I call a Change Points. A Change Point is any place of intervention where there is greater potential for positive change to occur.

This first video introduces NLP Neurological Levels to a group of NLP Practitioners in Newcastle upon Tyne. The following videos will illustrate how to use Neurological Levels to explore both outcomes and problems.

The Structure of Anxiety and Delightful Futures , NLP , Clinical Hypnosis

What have Anxiety and a delightful future have in common? Well for most people they are both in the future and both have not happened yet.

Anxiety is generally about planning a future that is pretty much crappy and undesired.  Anxiety experts also tend not to have any conscious ending for the unpleasant events they imagine.  This causes some more uncertainty and will tend to promote the anxiety cycle again.  Structurally there is little difference if any between Delight and Anxiety. Clearly the content is evaluated in a kind of either great or terrible way.

NLP is well known for its process orientated approach over content or situational details.  This short video from an NLP Practitioner training in Newcastle upon Tyne illustrates two NLP Operational Presupositions really nicely.

1. People have all the resources they need.

2. Structure ( or process ) is more useful than content and is a higher logical level.

 

Hints and Tips for Surviving a tempory recession – HT Four

Hello again, Nigel Hetherington here

So far this series of hints and tips have explored, in a very general way, what is essentially your outlook and  response-ability for your future.

This article is about the process of beginning to plan your future.

Its about starting to do something, and doing it now…

I recall when I did my first NLP Practitioner the ‘Well Formed Outcome’ was presented as a full and complete process. This demonstrated a worrying naivety of practical application and so in reality nothing could be further from the truth.

This is the first part of creating your outcome. There are other parts that are absolutely essential  for successful completion and they will be explore in detail in future articles.

So, this part is about WHAT DO YOU WANT? And exploring this in great detail.

The well formed outcome as far as I understand comes from the creator of Gestalt Therapy Fritz Pearls. There are certain conditions that seem to be required, certainly from a cognitive perspective that make a goal, an outcome even a dream all the more likely to come to fruition. Think about this in terms of a self fulfilling prophesy.

This version of the process requires the following:

  • Knowing what you do want ( as oppose to what you dont ) – See HT3
  • Taking responsibility yourself to making it happen – See HT2
  • Managing your state and how you feel – See HT1
  • Having a full sensory experience of it ( what you see, smell, taste, feel and hear )

The following process, created and developed by my good friend Andy Hunt is the first step in exploring realistic and desired personal goals and outcomes.

It is all about imagining, pretending and trying out potential outcomes before you make any commitments to pursuing them. Its all done in the safety and infinite resources of your own mind and body.

I have used this process with individuals and companies alike to explore possible future outcomes. I stress this is NOT a complete process. It is a beginning, and what a great place to start.

OK. Lets get to the practicalities. This is an exercise that you simply must do.

Pick some outcomes you want to explore and use the following process created by Andy Hunt.

Compass Exercise

The following H&T articles will make use of your exploration of your own goals. In a nut shell. DO the exercise. Then do it again. This is about you, yes YOU, taking control.

Get it on!

best wishes and continuing success’s
nigel