Category Archives: Reframing

Weight Loss & Pain Management Workshop

OK so you or your clients want to lose weight it’s that simple. So from the outset, it’s all the about the past – a past that has been stopping, restraining or imprisoning you. A bold statement, perhaps, so let’s explain.

When the past is mentioned its like everything you know was learned at some point and for most people, habits or expectation about the future are predictions made from past experience.

With weight loss, these are the disabling beliefs that circle around diets and miracle cures like vultures, ever ready for the next celebrity endorsed meal. What needs to change, must change for something long lasting is the entire foundation that is the emotional baggage and past we have all carried.


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There is a gateway to the imagination you must enter before you are conscious and the keys to the gate are symbols. You can carry ideas through the gate … but you must carry the ideas as symbols” – Frank Herbert

These very predictions of behaviour, thought and emotion are to avoid pain be it emotional, psychological or physical. And are the foundation of how and what we are today in behaviours, thoughts and emotions.

Digging up, basically removing the old foundations to create a very new basis means coming to terms, letting go and being reborn, like a Phoenix, could clear the way, open fresh possibilities, new possibilities to spectacular new ways of being – this means letting go of the fear-avoidant way we move through life is incredibly liberating.

Even being open to new possibilities creates change, the ground for liberation.

liberate means to be free. To stop coping with life the way you have. To open to the possibility of new and effortfully-joyful ways relating to yourself, food and … a lush way of living in a much more connective way.

This workshop will explore how pain ( physical and emotional ) can be liberated in means by a way of newly freshly taken in information and the resultant integration giving-creating genuine choice and purpose in losing weight.

What Will I Be Learning?

Some time ago, I was texted by a prospective student for an NLP/Hypnotherapy ‘what will I be learning in actuality’ – well this is important in regards to both weight loss and pain release; For two reasons.

Knowing what is being learned kind of defeats the idea of learning anything new. Usually this at best maps something different with new to old learning ( what we are trying to avoid ) and secondly they were too lazy to look at my web site.

Committing to both learning and embedding new habits is crucial in making any long lasting change. This requires effort. But – effort in the right place which is primarily psychological as well as behavioural.

Releasing the emotional and physical pain of past experiences and learnings has the potential to immediately create new ways of being in the world. Such past shocks to the psyche are going to be liberated with a method based in aspects of The Tibetan Book of the Dead. Kind of like acknowledging and letting be the vulnerable child in parts work. Tears of release anticipated!

What is a critical part in any change work is belief that change is possible. This is not like the ‘i would like to believe’ as would be many a religions practitioner in word but a deep, honest and forward feeling belief. More than faith but with stories of possibility we are creating a fertile ground for change.

A belief like this ( if its not already there ) is about stories, be they religious, scientific or anywhere in-between. It’s also about opening to the possibilities of change at a deep and sustainable level.

Following on from these aspects, we are looking backwards from the future, remembering what happened to create, shake and move us in the correct directions … and to move ourselves. This is rooted in our own deep and very honest values. What I call Spiral Dynamic Informed Future Pacing.

So a quick round up of some of the ways and means of pain release and weight loss.

  • Commitment and correct effort to succeed
  • Tibetan liberation from the past
  • Pain release
  • Creating a self motivated and purposeful future
  • Follow up and post session on Zoom

This workshop is informed with works from many of the most inspirations and meaningful books I have read. This is ranging from neuroscience to spirituality which offer the stories and the structures that can support change.

Mythology ( a story ) is “A traditional tail with secondary partial reference to something of collective importance.” – Berkert/Meineck

VENUE & DATES

Jesmond Dene Conference Center,
Jesmond Dene, Newcastle upon Tyne, NE7 7BQ

November 11-12

BOOKING

There are 10 places available on this training. Anyone booking is offered a free place on the the NLP & Hypnotherapy practice weekend 18-19 to practice and share what you have learned.

Weight Loss and Pain Release £95 ( free place on practice weekend )

 

Fully Booked

Strong and Stable : How We Use and Understand Words

This is an exploration in the deliberate and intentional use of language to change peoples minds. You might consider this post as a potential vaccine ( like Jenners way of eradicating the virus small-pox ) as in it may make you a little sick before becoming resilient to deliberately manufactured thought viruses.

The campaign line ‘Strong and Stable’, you may have read or heard recently has been used and repeated in sufficient quantity to have become both a talking point and a point of serious contention. It’s meaning we can question.

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In 2003, I first read Lakoffs and Johnsons book Metaphors We Live By. A brilliant book that provides a physically grounded account ( what there is and how it can be known ) of the nature of language and more importantly, a proposal on what goes on under the bonnet, that comes well before conscious thought and reasoning.

To really be aware of how words and slogans can be used to manipulate us, I feel it is necessary to get a deeper understanding of what words do to us by way of effects in our unconscious processing and reasoning. How our very first experiences are linked into concepts and language we all use and respond to.

For example when we are infants we have no discernment between sensations and concepts. This is a period know as conflation. As infants being held by parents we experience the sensation of warmth. So as concepts develop we have a physical grounding, Primary Metaphor : Affection is Warmth.

Primary Metaphor Implicated in ‘Strong and Stable’

In no particular order there are three ( actually there are many more which are implied ) Primary Metaphor ( Grady/Lakoff and Haser ) which seem to me most applicable in unearthing both the intention and deeper meaning in this slogan.

  • Morality is Strength
  • Certain is Firm
  • Persisting is Being Carried

Let us explore briefly what Morality, Certainty and Persistence mean withing public serving organisation. eg an elected government.

Morality is doing the right action. Here an elected government serving the public ( the electorate ) first. Government serving the people, before themselves and certainly before private and corporate institutions. Reading Lakoffs Political Mind a well functioning government is about Protecting and empowering people to live freely and be able to access affordable public services ( financed via taxation ). This is not selling public services under the guise of efficiency or cost saving to private enterprises whose prime concern is making money, charging as much as possible.

Certain means both being correct in what is know, be reliable source and an accurate credible prediction of some future event. This is highly related to the predictability.

Persisting means a deliberate and constant effort to reach some goal or prevent some unwanted goal being reached. It means consistency over time in relation to specific values being upheld.

How to Ideas and Behaviours become Habits?

This is very simple. Any action, be it a thought a physical action or response will become a habit when repeated enough times over and over again. A habit is in essence an unconscious response. Something that happens all by itself. Additionally a phobia or PTSD can be ‘learned’ in just one event involving high stress which can be described as a trauma.

The ‘Strong and Stable’ meme is being repeated again and again and let’s face it it feels like a pretty traumatic time here in Blighty. Uncertain Brexit, uncertain of which party will get in at the upcoming election, Jobs, NHS, Inflation, Food Banks; Uncertain and Stress are linked. One party will be for the people and one will be ‘government’ by corporations who will kill the NHS, schools and universities and continue with the Austerity policy, which does not benefit the public but serves the IMF really well.

So ideas and behaviours become unconscious and automatic under conditions of high stress and potential trauma.

Stress and Its Amelioratives

There are several well documented amelioratives to excess stress ( distress ), which are well documented in psychological literature. See Sapolskys ‘Why Zebras don’t get Ulcers’. Three of which I list below:

  • Control is preferred to no control
  • Predictability is preferred to Unpredictability
  • Social Support

Any government whose policies are seen to be clear, that is certain will be highly likely favored over another parties policies whose are unclear during ‘bad times’

Media, hacked or cyber targeted and newspapers have their own political agendas. By forging and shaping stories of how one party ( their enemy ) will create bad events, bad times and uncertainty they activate your stress system.

This will make you worry and/or become fearful by design. Such media will then highlight their chosen ( friend ) party as hero’s, saviors, competent managers of control and predictability. They, the media ( if you read and believe without thinking ) are shaping your brain.

Repeatedly creating biased, unpredictable and misleading articles ( Take D.Trump ) where these are read by people with really strong original views such articles will either strengthen their views or polarize them more completely. The people in the middle will be more likely to look to the media for their clues because this is least effortful and simplest. Its the default option.

Hence a slogan like ‘Strong and Stable’ is an excellent psychological weapon aimed at those undecided voters who will take the default option portrayed mostly on the media they absorb.  Remember the more people seen to support one side the more predictable/certain ( sadly ) that outcome may well be.

Tools of Psychological Influence

There are also strong correlates, again with more social and psychological research to be found in Cialdini’s ‘Influence – The Psychology of Persuasion’, some of which I list here:

  • Consistency and Commitment
  • Social Proof
  • Authority

An authority who is seen to be strong, seen to be a leader or seen to demonstrate a certain set of values will attract followers. This can become very powerful when there is uncertainty involved. Think of the strong leader Jim Jones who murdered his followers or everyone’s favorite dictatorial Roman Imperator.

Social proof can both be maximised through media reporting their perspectives and showing lots of people agreeing with policy. Any article that is emphasising one part dominance over another is actually influencing this more and they know it. Do you know that copycat-killings, road incidents and airline crash statistics increase when they are on social media?

Consistency and commitment indicate a steady and focused way being in the world as in individual or as a company. What needs to be explored is the direction and sensibility of such a ‘quality’ when the direction and values are incompatible with the public good. Consistently and with commitment flogging public services ( by constant and steady defending ) to corporations who want to charge the most the market can bear, pay minimum wages and have a few regulations as possible.

Deconstructing the Metaphors Implications

Lets explore the implications and meanings of ‘Strong and Stable’. Take a mountain or a building. It’s stable and its’ strong. We expect it to last spatially and temporally and usually it wont me moving anyplace soon. This means that we have a certain and concrete predictions of these qualities. Building and mountains will provide the physical support for its inhabitants and likely even a good environment of relative safety.

Good parents will undoubtedly carry their children, safely around for a sizable portion of time during infancy. They are persisting carrying ( which takes effort and strength over time ) their children [ creating their warmth is affection too ] to places that are conceived as destinations or goals.

They are doing the right thing, caring for, nurturing; being moral. Children ‘know’ they are safe ( apart from the odd pop star dangling them out of windows ) and cared for. They become certain of this experience. They can rely on their parents. Good parents are strong and stable and of course know what is best for their babies.

‘Strong and Stable’ implies, safety, persevering, certainty and doing the right thing ( moral ).

Recapping with Primary Metaphor :

Strong and Stable IS Moral, Certain and Persisting

This is a very well crafted slogan to apply to a moral, certain and persisting government. And to me used in this way deliberately to change brains to believe such a government has these qualities. And here is the BUT

Moral means putting people before themselves ( think of bedroom tax, disability cuts which have raised rates of death in claimants, cutting corporate tax while people in the UK are forced to use Food Banks, subsidising the banks, destroying the NHS … ). This is highly immoral in the context of public service for the public.

Certain means a sure outcome and be a credible source of what will happen in the future. We need to ask certain about what? Certain suggests having clear policy that is

Certain about what happens in Brexit when ‘one’ may be bloody difficult in negotiations? No. Its a mess there is no cogent plan. Certain corporate-business funded academies will help to educate and improve? No. Certain that inflation, utility bills and cost of living will be fair? No. There is a great deal of highly unpredictable and uncertain futures for the general public.

Persisting means you are being carried along. One implication of this primary metaphor is deeply rooted in being carried by loving parents who were putting our needs first. But Politicians and Governments are not our parents, we are adults now and can realise fundamental immoral acts being perpetrated against ourselves and the other not so privileged masses that are our family, friends, neighbors and fellow citizens.

If you wonder or think we are being manipulated or ‘nudged’ into thinking and acting and behaving in certain ways you will be dead right.  This is in essence true for all attempts of persuasion or influence.

What feels very important to me is to have some sense of the mechanisms which can be used ( quite effectively) to steer us into acting in ways that are grossly against our own interests as well as against the interests of decent people and the environment we will leave to our children.

Changing Problematic Behaviours using Hypnotherapy Parts Sublimation

We all from time to time experience a problematic behaviour. This typically means a certain set of ‘responses’ within a specific context. For example during public speaking, one may be engaged in an unhelpful conversation with oneself.

A new process for therapists and hypnotherapists to sublimate aspects ( seemingly competing psychological parts ), to working together to inspire and create more.

This is about psychological and behavioural parts sublimation. Where the parts together are greater than each other. Where individual strengths are valued and fully utilised within a greater frame.

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Ideally in this example, of public speaking, it may be better to not be having that inner conversation and instead having your attention directed outwards with no internal chatter.

This kind of ‘problem’ can take the form of I want to do X but instead do Y. Where X is the desired behaviour and Y is contextually problematic.

  1. Establish the ‘I want to do X but do Y instead’ problematic behaviour.
  2. In chair 1, induce trance and develop honest unconscious signal.
  3. Deepen trance and gain unconscious agreement that the client will stay in trance while and as they move to another chair.
  4. Move to the other chair, chair 2.
  5. Gain unconscious agreement for a conscious amnesia for the problematic behaviour Y.
  6. With freedom, have the client practice the new behaviour many times, and ask for unconscious confirmation when this has been done in a way that meets values, ecology and wellbeing.
  7. Future pace this new behaviour X, so that after the 3rd, or 5th or 10th time this has happened in a good way, the client will recover the amnesia for the old problematic behaviour Y. Gain unconscious agreement for this.
  8. Invite the unconscious to create any useful conscious amnesia for this recovery until appropriate.
  9. Gain unconscious agreement for client to stay in trance while and as they move back to chair 1.
  10. Move back to chair 1.
  11. Invite the client to return to normal waking state. Let your client do this at their own pace. Once they are ‘back’ immediately begin talking about anything else as a conscious distraction on the work you have just completed.

I have created this process researching Milton Erickson’ works on amnesia, ideas from Steven Gilligan and the New Code NLP explicit unconscious ‘yes’ at each process step from 2-11.

The idea is very much not about parts integration, as in adding up to make a merged whole. It’s parts sublimation. Sublimation to me means ‘parts’ without boundaries. Where the parts are valued individually and the sublimation is more than the parts as in 1+1 makes three or more.

Feel very free to use, adapt and tinker in any ways you wish.

NLP Meta Programs – A Spatial + Complement Approach

Recorded at Communicating Excellence NLP Practitioner Training Newcastle.

NLP meta programs explored spatially. The explorer has some goal or outcome in mind and their goal is explored within the context of meta programs. Notice the very important use of exploring the complement of the desired state/spatial position.

Conscious Unconscious in Hypnotherapy – Nigel Hetherington

When I am working as the Newcastle Hypnotherapist or in delivering NLP and Hypnotherapy training I often use the terms conscious and unconscious. Neither of these terms refers to any tangible objects; they are both after all just concepts. How these terms are framed or explained will tend to induce very different meanings and so, very different potential effects.

Conscious can simply mean that which we are aware of in any given moment or experience. Unconscious can mean all and everything that that we are not currently aware of and is currently unknown or permanently transcendent of perception; yet is a veritable store house of resources and knowledge with a universal ability to include, differentiate and expand.

World famous Hypnotherapist Milton Erickson is said to have introduced the terms conscious and unconscious ( mind ) into the very general language of the hypnotherapist. The terms unconscious and conscious were made popular in the last century first by Freud then Freud’s student Carl Jung. All three of these people had very different meanings and understandings of their respective terminology. These terms today refer to both the psychological and physiological and to a very great extent integrate the old idea of a differentiated mind and body.

From a psychological perspective the conscious and unconscious may be explained as declarative and non-declarative memory. Declarative memory is our explicit or known memory that we have the abilities to access. This kind of memory is made up of our experiences and our factual / conceptual memory. Process or non-declarative memory is our unconscious ‘how to’ do, routines like motor skills for walking, eating or moving our hands to manipulate an object. This kind of ‘unconscious memory’ may also explain how the excessively drunken socialite somehow manages to get home well after they lose the power to talk coherently and often even walk. Some would liken this to the part of the brain that we all share with the common Newcastle homing pigeon.

In hypnotherapy or any change process, we can decide what we want to change consciously, for example some problem behaviour like over eating, and go into utilise unconscious resources, experience and process to attend to the how without knowing specifically how. So this is making use of the skills, coping mechanisms, resources and learned behaviours available to an individual at an other than conscious level to accomplish some movement towards change. This may be a point of consternations for some because if the ‘how’ is unconscious then how can it be utilised?

Tens of thousands of years ago in the Bronze age and later in the Iron age, the skilled craftsmen who created weapons, tools and artefacts from Bronze and Iron did not understand consciously the metallurgical properties of the material they moulded, hardened and crafter yet they did make and create. Similarly it is not necessary to know how the body heals or how we learn to affect and augment these natural processes. Similarly consciously you can choose to pick up an apple, it is your unconscious sensory-motor system that co-ordinates the movement. In hypnosis arm levitation is an unconscious process just the same as at home or the cinema your arm might stop mid-task as the screen and story temporarily capture all your attention. It is an honest unconscious response when your sense of humour activates and you laugh out loud.

A neuro-physiological perspective of the term unconscious can refer to the ‘how’ all of the biological, neurological and electrochemical processes of the body operate. The processes of neuronal firing, digesting food, healing an ailment or beating our heart are processes that are unconscious. Using both attention and intention certain unconscious processes can be influenced. For example breathing is largely an unconscious response yet we can breathe in consciously too.

Our life is an accumulation of experience both our own and our vicarious collections. We can’t always know what we are learning never mind how we are learning in any given experience. It is likely that over time, looking back we will gain deeper and broader understandings of our experiences, changing and expanding the meanings and uncovering more of our knowledge as conscious access or even personal revelations based on our ongoing unconscious processes.

What I can consider more important than too specific definitions is the functional ways in which these terms may be employed. These terms can be used to invite attentional splits, to offer ways to focus attentions and so open and develop new mental and neurological maps. To offer certain hope and possibilities of self directed change. To frame workable and intelligible experiences that can establish new experiences and promote well-being.

Finally as a commencement remark, there really is no requirement to get caught up in some tight, overly intellectualised debate of the terminology and what it means and simply experiencing the utility of the terms and … can be enough to notice your clients making up their own mind and bodily experiences as you can too. And to encourage the invitation of the creation of distinctions and associations and the … After all it can be and it is useful to say ‘you have a conscious mind and an unconscious mind, you have conscious body process and unconscious body process … in psychological understanding the mind … outside the body the body … outside the mind in physiological understanding … ’.

North East NLP Practice Group : Improvisation In Therapy & Coaching : Nigel Hetherington & Ruth Hindmarsh

This month’s offering at the Newcastle & North East NLP & Hypnotherapy Practice Group is Improvisation Skills in Therapy & Coaching … It’s for those of us who will go the extra extra mile to engender generative change.

20th April : Powerful and Exceptionally Meaningful Therapist Skills … Come … Here … And Co-Create …

When we are working in the role of a change consultant, therapist, facilitator or coach we do have an outcome in mind that is to facilitate a real, honest and empowering environment of exploration for our clients. How can we tune into being this creative?

Way too many change consultants can’t get out of their own way, in terms of making a real step or going out of their own comfort zone to enable their clients to do the same. What can we do to get to grips with getting out of our own way and facilitate real change experience?

There is a real need and requirement to be able to create a context for generative change which is enabling and at the same time, truly an honest and very creative place. When we hold a perspective of being seriously creative, we can see a clear path to genuinely enabling changes …

Performing arts and drama facilitation expert, Ruth Hindmarsh will facilitate a fun and safe space to really be the change consultant you know are, with fun and real purpose.

Within a sequence of exercises, Ruth and myself will integrate play, fun and creativity into tools and process’s you can easily merge into your professional practice and your life to make your sessions and interactions much more creative as well as bringing a smile and sense of something more deeply connecting into our work, play time and life as a whole.

Very much for those of us who are serious about change …

Facilitators : Ruth Hindmarsh & Nigel Hetherington

Entry Level : Open To All

Places are limited to 15 so book in advance to guarantee your place

Come join in and explore in a warm, comfortable purpose built training environment. The Newcastle Hypnotherapy Practice Group, The Trance Cafe meets at St Oswalds, Regent Centre, Gosforth. Third Wednesday of the month.

tea / coffee & biscuits included
7-9pm for only £10.00 book online now!


Humour In Therapy & Coaching : April 9-10 : £99

A two day workshop in using Humour in Change Work : April 9-10 : £99.0 : Newcastle upon Tyne with Phil Jeremiah.

Phill Jeremiah’s work using humour in therapy is a seriously humorous, often irrelevant and completely client centred way of working. This approach helps even the most stuck clients make beneficial changes. A ‘Bubble’ session has the gentle power to help shift clients from problem states to resource states and create lasting and powerful change. In the ‘Bubble of Possibility’ anything and everything is possible … With 20 years plus experience in using a humour based approach, maybe you are ready to come on this exciting journey into the Bubble Of Possibility … So … What is the Bubble Of Possibility?

Phil provides training, motivational speaking and support to organisations in the use of humour. Laughter in the workplace is proven to reduce symptoms of stress and can promote good team working in a fun way with groups or individuals. This two day workshop offers us the opportunity to experiment with, understand why and how, and develop confidence in using humour in coaching or therapy.

It’s a must for your development and an even greater must for right now – with our economic and social structures all in turmoil, we could all do with a little humour to help us frame it in ways that are useful to and for us and to and for our clients.

Paula McCormack – UK Social Leaders Coach

 

Humour can help to break old patterns and establish new ones

 

This workshop is April 9-10 : There are only ten places :
Your investment for two days training in fully utilising
Humour in Change Work is a very reasonable £99.00

 

 

What is the Bubble Of Possibility?

The ‘Bubble’ is a safe space created in advance of any therapeutic or coaching work. Humour Worx change consultants, explain what can happen in this space, a space where the agent of change will and can do anything and everything to assist their client in making an honest and lasting change, from a problem space to something much more resourceful.

All participants will receive

  • A robust structure to utilise humour in change work
  • Personal change work with the group via exercises
  • The opportunity to do a 1:1 session with Phil
  • New and different perspectives and methodologies to use humour in your own work and practices

So many research papers and books tell us of the positive effects of laughter. Apparently 20 minutes of laughter is equivalent to 20 minutes of physical activity, likened to an inner form of jogging. It may well act as a buffer against day to day stressful perceptions. However, laughter is not easy to come by in our mixed up fear driven world. Consequently Humour Worx sets out to challenge our sometimes negative mind-sets and self-limiting beliefs.

I thoroughly enjoyed Phil’s workshop. Apart from the actual content, which was fascinating, his slick delivery meant that the weekend flew by. He is a superb and extremely humorous presenter, who could give many comedians a run for their money!

He brought the topic to life through a wide range of actual examples and life experience.

Humour Worx is a brilliant tool which complements other approaches. I have used it regularly since to great effect.

Carol Barwick – Carol Barwick Associates Ltd.

 

Research shows that laughter can help to boost the immune system

 

This workshop is all about therapeutic uses of humour and a Humour Worx approach to real change. An absolute must for therapists, coaches, trainers and all people helpers! Phil Jeremiah was one of Frank Farrelly’s ( Provocative Therapy ) earliest and brightest students.

When I first did the ‘Humour Worx’ weekend course with Phil Jeremiah, I was not sure of what to expect. What I found was a very fun way of resolving problems, that was both rapid and very effective. The processes used are very well structured as is the teaching methodology, which involves clear explanations along with actual practice of the processes involved. All in all an excellent piece of therapeutic technology.

Huw Dampney – Artist, Senior Martial Arts Instructor

 

April 9-10 2011 : Humour In Therapy & Coaching : £99
There are ONLY 10 places for this event. Make sure you get yours! Act Now and Book Your Place.

 

 

“Creativity and humour are closely linked

 

Phil has been providing training in the UK and Europe for over 20 years to a wide range of professionals and organisations and has worked in the field of personal development for even longer. He was a qualified Senior Mental Health Social Worker, approved under the Mental Health Act 1983. Phil has extensive training and a wealth of experience in the fields of adult psychiatry, psychotherapy, counselling, hypnosis, brief therapy, NLP, EFT, EMDR, Life coaching and clinical risk assessment in mental health.

Spirituality in Coaching and Therapy

The more you lose yourself in something bigger than yourself, the more energy you will have.

Norman Vincent Peale

Spirituality In Coaching and Therapy – Newcastle NLP and Hypnosis Cafe Monday 7th February 7-9pm : Gosforth Library Newcastle NE3 3HD : £10 Including Biscuits. Book online below.

When we come direct from heart space we create an energetic connection that surpasses the concept of empathy or our multi-sensory capacity. In doing so we create the neutral void that two souls can share to explore, discover, test, challenge and shift. For us, this is our recipe for lasting and generative change.

So in this café Paula and Nigel will facilitate your unpacking of the deeper and more connecting ways in which yours and our therapeutic alliances work. How they are formed, how they grow and the effect and impact they have on our and the world.

We will open and share our thoughts and processes of how to develop co-created alliances by exploring the concepts of projections and reflections prior to, during and after a dynamic interaction. We will also consider projection and reflection in terms of attracting clients into your life for mutual healing and purposeful learnings.

Every person we meet has something to teach us, and every person has something to say that only they can say. We both believe we attract the clients that will help and be beneficial to our ongoing development. This may also include ‘healing’ your past. viz a vie we meet together to co-create something that is more than mutually beneficial …

From this place we’ll look at working from heart space that dynamically co-creates a change process as being fundamental in effective change and evolution work. We will show you how this offers a place that goes way beyond our understanding of rapport. Indeed it transcends the thoughts that if we shared some common value, belief, outcomes, goals and even purpose we can go anywhere in the relationship.

Newcastle NLP and Hypnosis Cafe

Monday 7th February 7-9pm :

Gosforth Library Newcastle NE3 3HD : £10 Including Biscuits.

Book online now.





The Need For Closure – Part One

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if you have ever broke up with a real love, if you have lost a close friend or family member or if you have ever experienced a deep trauma … you may well have come across the term “The Need For Closure” and likely you will have felt the need for the ‘experience’ in question to come to some kind of satisfactory end. Or an end that you can make a satisfactory meaning of …

When I say ‘come to an end’ I am talking specifically about the feelings of hurt, guilt, pain or any unresolved issues and any of the other recursive negative emotions or thoughts that have been running around your brain as a result of the ongoing, replaying experience you want to end. And … some kind of cognitive and satisfactory understanding about the event. Most of all to CHANGE HOW what you FEEL!

‘The Need For Closure’ in terms of an event can then be thought to mean three things:

  1. The thoughts and feeling relative to the event, generally repetitive and unwanted, are by way of some new experience brought to an end.
  2. A new and conclusive understanding of the event and your ‘why did it happen‘ questions answered.
  3. To be able to get on and to move forward in life. To STOP the unwanted though process and MOVE ON …

The term ‘need for closure‘ became popular in the 1990’s due to media exposure and the terminology refers to an individuals need to have a satisfactory conclusion albeit a cognitive and emotional ending to some traumatic event in their life.

Individuals that score hight on the Need For Closure Scale ( Kruglanski, Webster, Clem ) are said to require rules and structure in their life and are generally intolerant to ambiguity and uncertain situations. People who have very little Need For Closure are generally more creative, optimistic and thrive on uncertainty and ambiguity. These also happen to be the characteristics of natural leaders.

If the Need For Closure is related back into a therapeutic setting as in recovering from some traumatic event then it is reasonable to assume those people with flexible beliefs and attitudes will naturally recover quicker and with less effort.

Yet this really is just another term for reframing. The art and science of CHANGING THE MEANING of what you think has or has not happened to you.

The next parts of this article will explore possible solutions and ways to satisfactorily close such an issue emotionally, take the learnings and MOVE ON.

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Coaching and NLP using Neurological Levels

One of the tools I use with performance Coaching in Newcastle upon Tyne is Dilts’ Neurological Levels Model.  The NLP Neurological Levels is an excellent way to compartmentalise and partition an experience or equally an outcome or a problem. Such that any ‘situation’ can be explored in terms of Environment, Behaviour, Capabilities, Values, Beliefs and Identity.

The purpose of partitioning, one of Erickson’s hypnosis strategies, is to explore an outcome or equally a problem with the intention of discovering points of maximum intervention, this is what I call a Change Points. A Change Point is any place of intervention where there is greater potential for positive change to occur.

This first video introduces NLP Neurological Levels to a group of NLP Practitioners in Newcastle upon Tyne. The following videos will illustrate how to use Neurological Levels to explore both outcomes and problems.