Posted onSeptember 9, 2016|Comments Off on NLP & Hypnotherapy Practice Weekend : October 1-2
This first coming weekend in October is a lush opportunity to meet up with new and old friends and get right down to lots of practice and play.
Two to three times a year we run a practice weekend for NLP and Hypnotherapy techniques and process. These practice weekends are just that; Practice! Also the cost is extremely good value at just £30 for the full weekend.
The topics will be a mixture of what you want to explore and practice on the day and some pre defined process.
Venue : Jesmond Dene Conference Centre
Date : October 1-2
Time : 9.30-5.30 each day
BOOKING : ONLY £30 for Saturday & Sunday!
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Posted onAugust 5, 2016|Comments Off on Master Practitioner NLP … Deepening Language Patterning …
While in another life I wrote software for the analysis on images, medical and oil exploitation related I was also completely enthusiastic in the world of NLP. My lunch time consisted of an hour, every five days, to go somewhere, usually Newcastle library and study language patterns.
I was already in the process of mastering language patterns. I had no end goal, no purpose other than the joy of learning and utilisation. I was lucky enough to have been both introduced and directed to study, for fun, NLP’s meta model and Lakoffs & Johnsons Metaphors We Live by at around the same time 2003/4.
I did not make the connections at that time between things I already knew tacitly in terms of martial arts and computer programming. The balance of practice of set pieces and spontaneity to create in the moment. I can not stress enough from my perspective that it is a necessary condition to both practice ‘form’ and to go into flow states to create; and move to mastery.
One of the patterns Rossi & Erickson have mentioned is what is called Implied Directive. Now the name will not necessarily be familiar, yet, when you realise the pattern and probably have some form of physical response to you’re understanding the pattern.
The Implied Directive is a part of a bigger pattern called Ideo-Dynamic ( which has four parts according to Erickson & Rossi ) something like this, as a formula or structured approach.
Time Directive -> Implication/Presuppostion -> Physical Response ( what does this mean? )
WHEN -> You REALISE SOMETHING of personal IMPORTANCE-> YOU WILL SMILE to yourself. This is something like …
AS SOON as YOU REALISE YOU CAN learn something of importance YOUR EYES WILL BLINK 3 times.
What this is attempting to do is create an honest ( and this is very important ) physical confirmation of a psychological change/realisation.
In trance, the motoric or physical response is ideally one that is honestly unconscious. It is easy to presuppose some movement that we know will happen for sure in the future, such as eye blinking or even touching the head.
To make these formulaic and very good patterns meaningful there are elements to add which can be confirmed in the trance state by way of honest unconscious movements. And … we can mix the elements of the implied directive around to affect the same kind of psycho-somatic presuppositions.
Psycho-Somatic meanings are the emotional and valuable textures of our life.
Smiling unexpectedly ( A PHYSICAL RESPONSE and depotentiating a conscious response AND by implication ) BEFORE you know you are ( TIME BINDING ) can MEAN there is more about you than you consciously know ( IMPLICATION ) is one way to re-structure an implied directive. This is :
PHYSICAL RESPONSE -> TIME BIND -> IMPLICATION
I am sure you can restructure this is any permutation of three different elements to affect similar results.
There is and there are huge benefits in practising and re-implementing all language patterns as much as actually knowing what the language patterns themselves are intended to accomplish and what they can do too!
Language patterns are one aspect of mastering NLP or practising mastery of nlp.
When you realise language patterns are aspects of much greater whole of communicating the ideas of positive change you might find yourself practising them more, even without any outcome in mind … and congruently utilising such patterns when you work with clients, friends or writing blog posts, you might type something that other can use and feel good doing this … maybe …
Posted onJune 3, 2016|Comments Off on Anxiety for Therapists Workshop : July 9-10
Stress and anxiety in one form or another account for up to 70% of the reasons clients come to see us. So it seems clients are contacting us in their quest for a healthier, stress free, happier life.
Perhaps much of the time you are able to connect and offer tools and therapeutic work that can help you clients achieve this. We are also ‘guessing’ sometimes you can’t.
In these instances have you ever honestly felt as though there is no getting through to a client who is so caught up in their problems nothing seems to release them from being stuck on the proverbial ‘hamster wheel’ they go round and round in?
As a therapist perhaps you yourself have struggled with a busy mind, overthinking, or second guessing yourself? As humans we can all easily fall into the trap without realising we are causing much of our own anxiety and stresses .
Perhaps something we would all benefit from is a bit more patience, to not to get unnecessarily irritable or overwhelmed at certain times and cultivate the ability to neither live in the past or future but live in the now.
“I myself was at a funeral last week, while there I watched people and felt myself, go through a wide range of emotions, from devastation, to frustration, anger sadness, fondness to laughter as memories were recalled and tales were told.
Such a vast amount of changing emotions in each and every person, yet nothing had changed – no matter how much we wished it had, so what happened ? How is it possible to change our feelings moment to moment ?” – julie
Understanding how we function as human beings is core to this training – by giving you the therapists real time felt experiences – through simple processes, stories and metaphor – in hand with a deeper understanding about our influenced and influencing part in them, will give and offer you a much greater advantage to helping your clients ( and you ) overcome stress, worry, anxiety and panic.
Who Is This Training For?
This two day training offered by Nigel Hetherington and Julie Brown will be interactive, thought provoking and real.
It is open to anyone who works with clients and through some simple techniques and understanding of how we as people work could quite possibly transform the way you work with clients as well as in your own experience of life with yourself, friends, family and colleagues.
Be prepared to come with an open mind allowing everything you have previously been taught to one side, for now and allow yourself to engage from anew.
Date, Venue and Booking
July 9-10 : 9.30am until 17.30pm : £95
Jesmond Dene Conference Center
Newcastle upon Tyne
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Posted onJune 1, 2016|Comments Off on NLP Practitioner Newcastle August 2016
I didn’t know a single thing about NLP when I attended a weekend introductory course. I was there by pure accident or simple fate. What happened from there changed my life in incredible ways.
Attending the NLP Practitioner was one of the single most useful and life changing things I have done. The tools and techniques helped me change how I thought and communicated. I had totally new ways to relate to others and be much more able to take someone else’s perspectives and understand better.
One aspect of the training is in discovering in a very real sense, what we already know, yet aren’t necessarily consciously aware of. These little discoveries often bring those light bulb moments of deep realisation. One such aspect for me is NLP’s Meta Model.
During that initial training, most of the participants seemed to be very confused about the Meta Model. I think they were stuck on the labels and desperately trying to understand something prematurely. A common experience in so much adult learning. My truth is the Meta Model is incredible easy to learn to use well.
There is absolutely no need to know the labels or terminology. What I learned was how to use the Meta Model to much better understand what people are saying as well as how problems can be both created and resolved. Understanding how to make sense of language is an incredible valuable life skill for me, which is used personally and professionally.
I gained important new and different perspectives about how I think and process information. I also was encouraged to consider what I truly wanted in life.
These teaching and deep learnings lead me to study hypnotherapy, which ultimately lead to a career change to do something meaningful and enjoyable for myself. But that is another story.
This coming August over nine days I am facilitating an NLP Practitioner training in Newcastle. This is a training that will offer you valuable tools and insights that could make your life and your interactions even more interesting.
There are currently eight places still available. The training is fantastic value at £595. For details of the NLP Practitioner and booking please click on this LINK.
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Posted onMay 24, 2016|Comments Off on Master Practitioner in NLP Newcastle
When I participated in my first NLP practitioner I really didn’t know what to expect or what I was letting myself in for. Yes I had really enjoyed a couple of NLP introduction courses but I really didn’t know. The frame of not knowing or even anticipating, still to me is one of incredible freshness in opportunities.
Completing that first NLP practitioner left me with so many questions and so much curiosity that my only question was when can I do the Master Practitioner?
During that first practitioner, what I learned through experience in the course as well as an obsessional amount of extra curricular reading and practice with my fellow travellers was life changing. I reflect back on this time now with sincere gratitude because for me there were so very many doors opened to realising, at that time my limited perspectives and how I can choose to explore.
One of my favourite teachers in Buddhism is Robert Thurman. Something I heard him say recently goes something like this ”even if you know the teaching, you should listen like you are learning something new, for the first time” and this is so relevant to actual learning. If we think we know it, there is the potential to gloss over and miss some new and deep insight.
There is a interstellar gulf between intellectual knowing and the kind of real knowledge that comes from experience and even then is only relevant in any one moment. This is the essence of wisdom. One is something we can talk about, for instance meditation and something we can communicate that makes a real difference, like someone who has engaged and discovered what meditation can actually bring forth.
So back to NLP Master Practitioner training
What I loved was the opportunity to really and more deeply understand the fundamentals of nlp interventions as well as one form of modelling. In this instance, analytical modelling which is a very useful skill. This involves questioning the exemplar and exploring their beliefs and values to ‘create’ a thought process which one can attempt to turn into a set of steps.
There are other ways of modelling which imo are far better suited to acquiring an embodied skill set such as deep trance identification or what is called unconscious physicalised uptake. These methods bypass verbal descriptions. In actuality all of these methods can complement each other.
By far the most important experiences I had were gaining deeper and more influential methods to expand my own world views as well as being able to engage with others, understanding deep motivations with behavioural and thinking structures. This was formative in my decision to become a therapist and change facilitator. It also lead to a big career change, but that is another story.
NLP Master Practitioner beginning September 2016
This coming September I am running an NLP Master Practitioner training in Newcastle. The training is 10 days over five months, one weekend per month.
There will be ample opportunities to deepen and broaden your NLP skills as well as lots of new material not taught on the NLP Practitioner training. This includes Meta Programs, Patterns of Reformulation and Modelling.
Want to find out more? You can discover a little about the course content by clicking here.
Booking is open now. There is £150 non-refundable deposit and the total cost of 10 days training is £695. The training is weekends only.
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Posted onMarch 30, 2016|Comments Off on Advanced Hypnotherapy Weekend : April 16-17
This is a stand alone module for experienced hypnotherapists and people who work with clients in a therapeutic mode.
Over two days we will be exploring and practising the kinds of tools that will enhance your skill sets and offer ways of improving future pacing. Combining neurology, psychology and linguistic skills with the intention of being more adept change workers.
Drawing on my 1:1 work with Michael Perez and aspects from Michaels Neuron Code training we will understand the basics of memory consolidation and how to utilise this within change process.
We will learn and operationalise Double Binds in hypnosis. Learning and understanding the terminology and applications within hypnosis.
Finally incorporating ideas from Spiral Dynamics to enhance how we use future pacing with clients to help and assist in the shaping of the futures and outcomes they effortfully wish to create.
Two days of enhancing training is £125 and there are four places currently available.
Jesmond Dene Conference Centre.
Use the button below to secure your place.
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Posted onFebruary 15, 2016|Comments Off on Changing Problematic Behaviours using Hypnotherapy Parts Sublimation
We all from time to time experience a problematic behaviour. This typically means a certain set of ‘responses’ within a specific context. For example during public speaking, one may be engaged in an unhelpful conversation with oneself.
A new process for therapists and hypnotherapists to sublimate aspects ( seemingly competing psychological parts ), to working together to inspire and create more.
This is about psychological and behavioural parts sublimation. Where the parts together are greater than each other. Where individual strengths are valued and fully utilised within a greater frame.
Ideally in this example, of public speaking, it may be better to not be having that inner conversation and instead having your attention directed outwards with no internal chatter.
This kind of ‘problem’ can take the form of I want to do X but instead do Y. Where X is the desired behaviour and Y is contextually problematic.
Establish the ‘I want to do X but do Y instead’ problematic behaviour.
In chair 1, induce trance and develop honest unconscious signal.
Deepen trance and gain unconscious agreement that the client will stay in trance while and as they move to another chair.
Move to the other chair, chair 2.
Gain unconscious agreement for a conscious amnesia for the problematic behaviour Y.
With freedom, have the client practice the new behaviour many times, and ask for unconscious confirmation when this has been done in a way that meets values, ecology and wellbeing.
Future pace this new behaviour X, so that after the 3rd, or 5th or 10th time this has happened in a good way, the client will recover the amnesia for the old problematic behaviour Y. Gain unconscious agreement for this.
Invite the unconscious to create any useful conscious amnesia for this recovery until appropriate.
Gain unconscious agreement for client to stay in trance while and as they move back to chair 1.
Move back to chair 1.
Invite the client to return to normal waking state. Let your client do this at their own pace. Once they are ‘back’ immediately begin talking about anything else as a conscious distraction on the work you have just completed.
I have created this process researching Milton Erickson’ works on amnesia, ideas from Steven Gilligan and the New Code NLP explicit unconscious ‘yes’ at each process step from 2-11.
The idea is very much not about parts integration, as in adding up to make a merged whole. It’s parts sublimation. Sublimation to me means ‘parts’ without boundaries. Where the parts are valued individually and the sublimation is more than the parts as in 1+1 makes three or more.
Feel very free to use, adapt and tinker in any ways you wish.
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Posted onDecember 31, 2015|Comments Off on Happiness, Watzlawick and NLP Practitioner Training in Newcastle
As we move from 2015 into a new year of 2016, there are many aspects of our life which I believe will benefit greatly from a certain class of improvements. Moving pretty rapidly beyond having enough resources to live in security and comfort, this class of improvements will be the kinds that create genuine compassion and succinctly and simply nurture happiness.
The purpose of this post is to invite you to watch a video ( which is below ) that is about perhaps not a new way ( its very old ) but likely a way to think differently and more relationally about your own situations and certainly being a citizen of the world, to think differently about the world we are a part of along with all of the other people we share this blue life giving marble with.
This idea to share comes to me as I have been revisiting much of the material I started reading almost 15 years ago as I began my journey of NLP. Particularly I have been revisiting works of Gregory Bateson, Paul Watzlawick and Joseph Campbell. There are certain themes that are shared and hopefully should you read and research them, perhaps, you will get deep insights into what Bateson called ‘the pattern which connects’ and perhaps you will change certain aspects in how you think, act and are in this world…
Many a great philosopher, scientist and spiritual teacher have understood in the West where there are in our time, truly great advances in science and medicine which certainly have the potential to eradicate hunger and wars, as there are more than enough resources for the entire earth, noticed that there seems to be very little spiritual ( one meaning of this to me is world wide compassion and sharing in an inter-personal way ) evolution.
Remember that a staggering half of the worlds wealth is held be 1% of the population. This is an unrepresented moral inequality.
In Lakoffs excellent book ‘Moral Politics’ he discusses a term ‘Privateering’ as being how corporations ( in bed with governments – who we elect ) have and are turning societal services which governments should protect and run for their citizens into private services which strip wealth from citizens. Look at our national health service in the UK or the formally named ‘Blackwater’ security service in the USA as examples.
Lakoff also explores ‘Framing’ as a way of hardwiring certain concepts into our brains which can tend to get people to vote against their own interests, values and beliefs.
A frame can be thought of structuring values, ideas and ways of thinking in line with your own purposes. Frames such as ‘war on terror’, ‘Councils forced to make more cuts’, and ‘politicians to get pay rise’ have a tendency to evoke a certain way of thinking and emotions. And most of this though is well below the threshold of consciousness.
On an intra-personal branch, how we relate to ourselves, much of the thinking an individual will do is again unconscious and the little of what we are conscious of can seem like both a reality and a belief, for good, ill or somewhere in the middle. The frames, meta-programs and our conditioning that are alive and active ( how are these activated? How are these changed? ) as it stands can lead to us being fearful or joyful in any variety of situations. Where the strong influence on our emotions and thoughts can seem out of our own hands.
Being happy is all peoples birth right as humans. The Dalai Lama has a strong accent on being happy. It is said that the purpose of life is to be happy. Buddhism as one of the worlds oldest spiritual / life practices has a strong accent on human beings and the main teachings of human illumination are freedom from fear and desire ( two major frames used to shape thinking in politics ) and also a freedom of what society might term social duty, especially when many aspects of what is deemed right in society is clearly flawed and serve so very few.
Just one of the many ways of reshaping our consciousness and our deep frames and narratives is exploring both how we think and having an idea of how we think we are in a position to change the structure. Changing previously unconscious modes of thought, especially their meanings, does actually take time, effort and practice. And this is a worthwhile life practice.
NLP has a strong accent on process or the how something is accomplished. Its like learning the scales on a guitar, the rules for programming a computer or what happens when an artist mixes colours of paint. Once you have and understand these basic principles or fundamental process structures and their relationships, you can create your own art.
The basic unit of learning according to Bateson is difference. Exploring the differences that make a difference in a positive way in your own life and those who you are relating with, for me is one of the real gifts in NLP. Some details of NLP training in Newcastle beginning January 2016 are following this inspiring video from Paul Watzlawick.
Here is a deep and prophetic video of Watzlawick [ When the solution is the problem (1987) ]. Now this is subtitled so you really will need to invest some time and effort … and it will be well worth it!
Taking an NLP Training for very many people has a rather profound and positive effect in their life. Now NLP will not dramatically change your life, its you that can do that. What NLP offers are processes which can lead you to new and different ways of acting and being in the world … perhaps the ways where you learn to make yourself feel more resilient and feel happier more of the time.
For information and booking Newcastle NLP Practitioner training of a highly experiential nature beginning in January 2016 click on this link.
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Posted onNovember 4, 2015|Comments Off on Connection & Empowerment with NLP Training in 2016 in Newcastle
‘Lifelong learning’ (Colloquialism) is the “ongoing, voluntary, and self-motivated” pursuit of knowledge for either personal or professional reasons. Therefore, it not only enhances social inclusion, active citizenship, and personal development, but also self-sustainability, rather than competitiveness and employability. – Wikipedia
When I began my journey into NLP I was perusing an interest in how I could become a better person. Better in the sense of being more able to cope with the stresses that were associated with my job, relationships and life in general. And because I love learning.
The experience of NLP is an ongoing journey of discovery of connection and empowerment and so much more …
Chris Shalliker Testimonial
Initially I wanted to be more able to control my emotions and was very curious about how I could apply the NLP bits and bobs I had accumulated from reading a book or two and from attending a couple of introduction weekends.
My introductions came more by happy accident than setting out to utilise NLP to dramatically improve my life conditions but as I said to myself, there you are beginning an NLP Practitioner and you’re just here for the experience!
What I discovered during that first practitioner training was a great deal about how my brain worked and how I could use language in ways that can influence and ways that can uncover the deeper meanings in communication. And perhaps the experience of life long learning.
Satu Eleftheropoulou Testimonial
I learned a variety of ways to both understand myself better and to better understand where other people come from in their words and actions; this created the conditions to be much more open and able to nurture relationships in my personal and professional life.
The techniques I have learned have helped enormously in those times, which we will all face when its challenging, hard and difficult to move forward in life.
These same techniques and processes have been a great benefit to the people I see in a therapeutic and coaching context because, learning that we can, through practice, change how we think and assume the world to be, is a very deep freedom and potentially life changing life long learning that is our birth-right.
Jeff Wakeling Testimonial
The technology and processes in NLP are easily learned through practice. These techniques have the power and potential to help us grow as people and in doing so be better able to communicate and connect with others. And these qualities are needed by the people of our little planet more than ever, right now.
This training is taking place in Jesmond, Newcastle upon Tyne at The Jesmond Dene Conference Centre, NE7 7BQ. All training dates are Saturday and Sunday.
April 9-10, 23-24 ( optional weekend ),
You can secure your place on this transformative training with £150 deposit. The deposit is non-returnable. Should you be unable to attend the course, the deposit is transferred to the next available training to suit you.
The balance of £475 is due on or before January 16th 2016.
Hope to see you there to begin a new journey of connection and empowerment and it will be fun … so remember your sense of humour!
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