Sleight Of Mouth
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In the same way you have been learning about the structure of subjective experience before you learned NLP or hypnotherapy, you will have already learned about ‘sleight of mouth‘ or reframing. and you already know how to and how this works – even if you are not fully aware of the structure consciously. This is an exemplification of some patterns Robert Dilts coded from what Richard Bandler was doing.
I was introduced and taught Sleight Of Mouth (SOM) as some 15 coded interventions. SOM is simply simply re-framing. This is my recollection of the patterns Ian introduced me to which I recall come all the way from a Connie Ray and Steve Andreas training in the nineties.
First here is a list in no particular order of the labels and then you can continue with the examples of the patterns while your teaching yourself the meaning to the labels.
- prior cause
- chunking up/down/sideways and ‘logical level’
- change the frame size
- counter example
- another outcome
- reality strategy
- model of the world
- switch referential index
- apply to self
- hierarchy of criteria
- meta frame
Lets begin with making use of an operating belief and this is a model that classifies all problems ( all enablings too ) as either complex-equivalences ( CEq) or cause-effects (CEf). If you ‘act as if’ this model is true then all SOM acts to redefine or re-frame or simply soften up the implied cause-effects and / or complex-equivalents.
Do keep in mind ‘how’ you might use your tonality when delivering the responses; Its both what you say and how you say it.
Here is the form of the ‘problem’ and possible SOM interventions.
“som application 1“, “som application 2“, “som application 3“
The intervention may deal with the ‘whole’ problem in one go or it may deal with aspects of the problem. It is your job to determine where this happens. Remember the structure of the problem in this model is CEf or CEq, by changing just one aspect of a part, the relationship within the whole must change at some level.
“Smiling in that way me means he doesn’t like me“.
This is a complex equivalence statement. Here ‘smiling’ MEANS ‘not like’ and this can be addressed like this.
- Address ‘smiling’. “That’s not smiling that’s just stretching his face“
- Address ‘not like’. “The way he’s looking at you – he thinks your OK“
- Address it all. “No my friend, that means he fancies you!“
1. Prior Cause
Address / explore a perceived cause ( what came before ) of the ‘problem’
“I can’t learn very easily”
“Yes, you don’t seem in the right mood yet”
“What makes you perceive it in that particular way”
“You seem to have very easily learnt to say things like that”
Occurs in time and or space.
Differences ( chunk down ) / commonalities (chunk up) /
additional examples (chunk sideways)
“Feeling this way stops me having fun”
“But having fun is a type of feeling” – chunk up
“What exactly are you feeling?” – chunk down
“Then touch something that makes you laugh” – chunk sideways
“Sure, not at this exact instant in time” – chunk down
“That’s just your perception” – chunk up
3. Change the Frame Size
Explore a smaller or larger part / aspect of the original ‘problem’
“being fat means nobody loves me”
“Who are you comparing yourself against?”
“Are you seriously claiming to think that no one has ever or will ever love you?”
“Your ears are skinny”
“What do you mean when you say love”
To offer ‘another’ meaning to all or some of the parts of the ‘problem’
“Arguing makes me have headaches”
“Are you saying differing opinions aren’t always particularly comfortable for you?”
“Arguing means you feel strongly about it”
“That head tension can be a real bummer”
what ‘may’ happen over time resulting from the ‘problem’
“My problems stopped when I met you”
“Muaha Ha ha ha that’s what you think!!”
“Maybe your life is less unpredictable now”
“You used to have fun figuring things out”
“Your not as adventurous as you used to be”
This topic is continued in the Resource section
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