Having been in the close company of several world class and well known facilitators of change some of whom are the people I consider the most able, they have on occasion failed miserably to create change. Some failures I have known from direct experience and some via their stories.
Knowing and seeing this that even the ‘best’ can fail and fail completely is a source of liberation from perfectionism. Forcing one’s increasing efforts for diminishing returns onto another person exacerbates resistance and serves no one; unless this is a part of a process.
I would like to you watch the following DVD. Its Milton Erickson the world acclaimed hypotherapist which many in the field of NLP will know as their model of hypno-therapeutic language ( a part of how Erickson worked ) who’s work spawned the Milton Model. Erickson did so much more and as can be seen here to have failed with direct suggestion.
The small number of therapists who think they must always create some kind of change by way of their compliance or more puzzling the ones who are convinced that their one protocol ( a one-trick-pony, the one right way ) works for all are missing two of the most important aspects of engendering change – and these are feedback and all clients are different.
On the NLP courses I offer there are a minimum of three days devoted to hypnosis and hypnotherapy. While the Milton Model language aspects are offered these are incorporated inside of doing actual hypnosis which is much more valuable.
Most students with their fellow explorers experience direct hypnotic phenomena and of course being able to initiate a trance experience. And while the learning how to use hypnotic language is important being comfortable in any seeming failure and somehow utilising this response is way more important.
It’s more important for the practitioner and for our clients – why? Because it is invaluable learning in you can and will fail and where then to go with failure.
Having watched the Erickson video you can see the the very best can fail and fail spectacularly. You can also see there is no attachment to the specific suggestion or even the technique.
If you are interested in learning hypnotherapy and NLP in Newcastle then you can explore the courses I offer.
NLP Practitioner in Newcastle – Begins August 2014