the Meta Model Easier Made – Part 6

And they are off again! Having a laugh and a joke with each other, taking and conversing, sharing something special. They really listen to each other, they are indeed a great couple. Notice how they enjoy each others company. Not like those! They don’t get on too well. He is always arguing with her, she is never loving him no matter what. Their relationship looks very much one sided almost as a relationship with a variable limp. He isnt really relating to her. Haven’t they noticed that birds and butterflys have symmetrical wings and they work together in unison during flight, as one heart beating.

The way people express situations and events can sometimes seem skewed and sheered, can feel off-balance, off kilter, a bit one-sided. In the words of the philosopher Turner

It Takes Two Baby It Takes Two Baby

the Meta Model essentially does two things when used ‘as intended’

  1. It assist stuck clients to change – Therapeutic
  2. It gets high quality information – Business / Pleasure / Therapeutic

the current Integrity NLP Practitioner in Newcastle will uncover the Meta Model and those who are on our next Newcastle Hypnotherapy course beginning February 2008 will leave with a well grounded and practical knowledge of applying this process.

Just imagine relating even more fully with your clients whilst still operating effectively at you own process level. If you are in any therapeutic field like the many complementary therapies or thinking of taking up your calling, you could take our Newcastle hypnotherapy course – it will help your communications during therapy be better and easier and faster as something evolves between parties.

see more clearly that these Meta Model interventions are a set of specific verbal responses to a set of very specific words and phrases. Its real easy so not so surprisingly ‘clients’ and people are using them all the time, so its easy, like seeing the light to notice these, now

the Art of Applied NLP is when and in what contexts to apply these specific verbal responses so as not to lose friends and alienate yourself.

The Meta Model – Therapeutic Process (6)

Please note that when you use this ( or any ) process with clients you are at best creating a context where they can change their own situation.

Now lets get down to doing with just a few examples. The example will take the form of a ‘clients’ verbalisation of a problem and the specific ‘form’ of the Meta Model response for this particular problem – got the picture already?

Notice there is no requirement to know the labels for these ‘responses’.

One thing that really is worth keeping in mind if you choose to practice recognising from and responding to in this way to others ( or your self ) –
do do it respectfully and with rapport!

The ‘problems’ or stuck states statements are presented in RED and the verbal responses in GREEN

She is always arguing with her sister.
Is her sister always arguing with her?

my partner never wants to do anything with me!

Do you ever want to do anything with your partner?

my husband always waits for me to kiss him first!
Do you always act to kiss your husband first?

They always laugh at me!
Do you ever laugh at them?

my partner is always holding my hand!

Are you always holding your partners hand?

All of the above ‘interventions‘ take the form of a response to verbal ‘claims about what is apparently a two way ( or more ) process being described as one way.

Detect the one-sided or passive interaction.
You can do this by checking what you have heard and asking yourself whether this ( to make sense ) requires a more active role in the process than the seemingly one person – that is it’s plain one sided.

As you detect the ‘non-symmetric’ material simply question the apparent one sidedness. You can do it like these ways below

  • Detect passive roles [ is some action being ‘done on’ or ‘done to’ one person ]
  • When you detect a necessarily two way process – like kissing – switch the passive person to an active role
  • When you detect a non-necessarily two way process – like smiling – switch the passive person to an active role
  • Use a sentence to put people back into the active role


nigel hetherington

Communicating Excellence
Excellence in Neuro Linguistic Programming and Hypnotherapy

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