In a great many circles NLP has not got the best of reputations. It is currently being repacked and now appealing to mass audiences by many current writers. One exceptionally good one is Paul McKenna. Just look at his series of best selling books – all repackaged NLP yet hight readable with mass appeal. Will this repackaged NLP reach millions upon millions and change their lives or will the books simply be read and shelved somewhere. Will the lessons, at some level be instrumental in some beneficial social revolution or will no one do the exercises and the inherent value remain on the pages in set type.
The vast majority of NLP Processes, as far as I can currently
understand, are on the whole very good. The application of these
processes is up to the individual practitioner. One recent example in the Independent of Sunday’s ‘Success at work’ series presents a process. The process in itself is very good ( coming loosely from Gregory Batesons Double Bind Theory ). Yet for me, the ethics of application is highly questionable, especially in the context it is presented. This example is from the ‘feel good or no hassle technique’.
“Of course you could save £75 on our fees by dealing with the form choices yourself OR if you feel uncomfortable about wading through seven pages of time-consuming complex tax forms and material, which has to be spot on, we could do it for you“.
the Meta Model essentially does two things when used ‘as intended’
- It assist stuck clients to change – Therapeutic
- It gets high quality information – Business / Pleasure / Therapeutic
Our NLP Practitioner course beginning in January 2008 and the current Integrity NLP Practitioner in Newcastle will uncover the Meta Model and those who are on our next Newcastle Hypnotherapy course will leave with a well grounded and practical knowledge of applying this process therapeutically.
Just listen to yourself, relating even more fully with your clients whilst still operating effectively at a process level. If you are in any therapeutic field like the many complementary therapies or thinking of taking up your calling, you could take our Newcastle hypnotherapy course – it will help your communications during therapy be better and easier and faster as something evolves between parties. Learn to develop that hypnotic voice.
See, the more you look into this noticing that these Meta Model interventions are a set of specific verbal responses to a set of very specific words and phrases. Its really easy, so, not so surprisingly ‘clients’ and people are using them all the time, Look take note, its easy to say and do, just like bright learning, your seeing language in a new way…
the Art of Applied NLP is when and in what contexts to apply these specific verbal responses so as not to lose friends and alienate yourself.
The Meta Model – Therapeutic Process (9)
Please note that when you use this ( or any ) process with clients you are at best creating a context where they can change their own situation.
“In psychotherapy you change no one. People change themselves. You create circumstances under which an individual can respond spontaneously and change. That’s all you do. The rest is up to them” – Milton Erickson
Now lets get down to doing with just a few examples. The example will take the form of a ‘clients’ verbalisation of a problem and the specific ‘form’ of the Meta Model response for this particular problem – got the picture already?
Notice there is no requirement to know the labels for these ‘responses’.
One thing that really is worth keeping in mind if you choose to practice recognising from and responding to in this way to others ( or your self ) –
do do it respectfully and with rapport!
The ‘problems’ or stuck states statements are presented in RED and the verbal responses in GREEN
Of course you could save £75 on our fees by dealing with the form choices yourself OR if you
feel uncomfortable about wading through seven pages of time-consuming
complex tax forms and material, which has to be spot on, we could do it
for you
Are you suggesting that if I don’t pay you £75 for what may in fact be trivial, easy forms to fill in, I have to feel uncomfortable? Get stuffed!
Would you like to learn this pattern easily OR do you want to learn it with minimal effort?
Are you saying I can only learn this in two ways? easily or with minimal effort?
This story is either going to make you cry or you are an unfeeling person!
My not crying does not mean I am unfeeling.
If I cry are you suggesting I am a feeling person?
You might like to think about what you have just said. I may know more about this story than you.
You can either clean this mess up now or later!
I may never clean your mess up, that’s your job!
So you are saying if I clean this mess up now I wont clean it up later? What if I do half now and leave the rest!
Thank you for such varied choices 🙂
A person can either learn from mistakes or keep making them
So if I keep making mistakes you seem to suggest I am not learning?
Are you suggesting it is impossible to make different mistakes?
You seem to be saying that continuing making mistakes means no learning is taking place?
All of the above ‘interventions‘ take the form of a response to an implied choice of either THIS or THAT. By detecting the ‘or‘ statement and fully realising that there are many additional choices we can explore to free ourselves from both ‘unethical manipulation’ or ‘imposed choices’ – either internally or externally; And opening up a real world of choices.
Once an ‘either or’ statement is detected, an illusion of choice, you can explore what is actually meant by using the following meta model challenge to
would you like to ‘X’ or would you like to ‘Y’?
Are you saying if I don’t do ‘X’ I have to do ‘Y’?
Are you saying not doing ‘X’ means I have to do ‘Y’?
Are you saying if I don’t do ‘Y’ I have to do ‘X’?
Are you saying not doing ‘Y’ means I have to do ‘X’?
By challenging the implied illusion of choice ( X or Y ), you will reject the ‘imposed choice’ and open up real choice – when it is appropriate to you.
- Does this mean not X has to be Y?
- Does this mean not doing Y means the only alternative is X?
- Are you saying the choice is just between X and Y?
enjoy
nigel hetherington
Communicating Excellence
Excellence in Neuro Linguistic Programming and Hypnotherapy
