the Meta Model Easier Made – Part 12

On the delayed 10.30 train from Kings Cross, I am traveling back to Newcastle, NLP training at the fore front of my mind. I have been to the NLP conference, an experience of great interest, that I will write up and share my views on in the future. The even was superbly organised and well worth a visit next year. I have met some wonderful energetic people with real passion I am of course talking of both the delegates and some of the presenters. Several of the big name presenters quite categorically stated that the NLP scene here in the UK is bigger than in the US. They demonstrated a great deal of enthusiasm about this, what I would call ‘giving it a bit of the old flannel‘ and I cant help but wonder if the current US recession adds more fuel to their desires. There was, for me a curiosity regarding some of the presenters relationship with the audience and their apparent lack of knowledge, rapport and respect for other’s model of the world. There is to me a almost ubiquitous theme of re-branding and repackaging attempts at product sepperation of the various weaving threads of NLP from one another. More on this subject at another time…

the Meta Model essentially does two things when used ‘as intended’

  1. It assist stuck clients to change – Therapeutic
  2. It gets high quality information – Business / Pleasure / Therapeutic

Additionally the NLP Cafe, a structured, Newcastle NLP Practice group will be open for its first event on Wednesday 12th December 7-9pm. How to Create a Brilliant Future
Its a Christmas present at £10.00 or just £9.00 if you book online. Get 2008 on track and have a path with a heart.

Our NLP Practitioner course beginning in January 2008 and the current Integrity NLP Practitioner in Newcastle will uncover the Meta Model and those who are on our next Newcastle Clinical Hypnotherapy training will leave with a well grounded and practical knowledge of applying this process therapeutically.

How good would it feel to be relating even more fully with your clients whilst still operating as an effective therapist. If you are in any therapeutic field like the many complementary therapies or thinking of expanding your skills, you could take our Newcastle clinical hypnotherapy course – it will help your communications during therapy be better, easier and faster as your incorporating new skills.

Hold on, the more you feel your getting to grips with these Meta Model interventions are a set of specific verbal responses to a set of very specific words and phrases. Its really easy, so, not so surprisingly ‘clients’ and people are using them all the time, take note, its easy to say and do, just like your full and complete learning, your getting language in a new way…

the Art of Applied NLP is when and in what contexts to apply these specific verbal responses so as not to lose friends and alienate yourself.

The Meta Model – Therapeutic Process (12)

Please note that when you use this ( or any ) process with clients you are at best creating a context where they can change their own situation.

In psychotherapy you change no one. People change themselves. You create circumstances under which an individual can respond spontaneously and change. That’s all you do. The rest is up to them” – Milton Erickson

Now lets get down to doing with just a few examples. The example will take the form of a ‘clients’ verbalisation of a problem and the specific ‘form’ of the Meta Model response for this particular problem – got the picture already?

Notice there is no requirement to know the labels for these ‘responses’.

One thing that really is worth keeping in mind if you choose to practice recognising from and responding to in this way to others ( or your self ) –
do do it respectfully and with rapport!

The ‘problems’ or stuck states statements are presented in RED and the verbal responses in GREEN

I have a serious situation here!

Tell me more about what your situationing?
What are you

You know, I am being frustrated by her constant questions!

What specifically is happening so your responding in this particular way?
How is her frustrating you?
What is frustrating?

is making me feel bad

How are you responding to what?
How are you choosing that particular way of responding?
What are you responding to?

Oh I know, you think its great to be confused.

What was confusing you?
How are you currently experiencing being confusing?
Confusing? How do you know?

I decided that a new organisation is the key!

How are you deciding that organising is a key?
What are you deciding when organising in this particular way?
How are you organising now?
What are you organising when you are deciding in that particular way?
How are you organising when you are deciding in that particular way?

All of the above ‘interventions‘ take the form of a response to recognising a description of some ‘process’ word that has been either turned into an ‘object’ or an ‘event’ in the past present or future. The process has been frozen.

Turning a process word into an event turns it into a kind of linguistic object or substance. Does it sound like you could pick some of this ‘substance’ up and put it in your pocket?


I have some ‘frustration’
I am in a state of frustration

Testing for frozen process or states

Does the word ‘logically’ fit into a container
Does the sentence an ongoing X, make sense ‘OR’
Does the sentence I am being X


take the verb to ‘frustrate’ here are its ‘frozen’ or stuck forms

frustration, frustrated

an ongoing ‘frustration’
an ongoing ‘frustrated’ -> I am being frustrated

  • Turn the frozen process word BACK into an ongoing process
  • What is FRUSTRATING you?
  • How are you FRUSTRATING yourself?


nigel hetherington

Communicating Excellence
Excellence in Neuro Linguistic Programming and Clinical Hypnotherapy

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